Is it normal that i pee in front of my 19 year old gay son?

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Im 43 i had my first child at 17 i now have 4 children 2 girls and 2 boys. I basically raised them with no help and i did everything with them and took them everywhere. They were always with me. I could never go to the bathroom without an audience they would never leave me alone. My kids and i are very close i feel i have done a good job of raising them and they tell me everything even if i know im not going to want to hear it. My 19 year old son is gay and i love him to pieces i think nothing of him coming into the bathroom while im on the toilet to this day or if i have to pee real bad and hes in there i say oh my god i gotta pee he says so go pee! I think nothing of it. Now i would do the same thing with my girls and i have another son 17 who is not gay and im not sure i would pee in front of him but if i had to bad enough i probably would. Mind you im very modest while dressing around my kids and they have never seen me naked at all not even my daughters have ever seen my breasts. Is there something wrong with it because one night my boyfriend and i came home from dinner and my son was in the bathroom with the door wide open just looking in the mirror and i had to pee so bad i just walked in and sat down. My boyfriend freaked out and said that i was the most disgusting person and it was wrong and a bunch of other very hurtfull things. now i feel awkward about my relationship with boyfriend. My son was confused because he said why is he so upset mom im GAY and even if i wasnt its not a big deal so whats his problem? Please help.. Thanks

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  • Ethereal-Silence
    10 years ago | pl

    Sounds like your boyfriend is overreacting. Maybe he wants you to pee in front of him? Just a random thought unless he really is truly disgusted by it.

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  • LostSoul22
    10 years ago

    I would say it's normal if the trust is there with the family / people doing it nothing wrong with that. I think your boyfriend needs to take a chill pill an apologize to you for what he said.

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  • GreyWulfen
    10 years ago

    Completely normal. But your BF has some issues.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    "Im 43"

    And you come to IIN for help?

    My god man, most of these people don't know their asshole from their elbow.

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    • abratt70
      10 years ago

      I know your right. I shouldnt have second guessed myself but i was abused from 3 to 13 and it just thru me for a loop to hear someone freak out on me as if i had done something wrong and it made me feel like i was as bad as my abusers so either i had raised my kids completely wrong or he was over reacting. I just wanted some feed back is all but your right i dont need it. lol by the way your on here too you know. whats your excuse??

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I'm here to "shape" young minds.

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      • iluvboth
        10 years ago

        My dear lady,
        There's nothing wrong with you peeing in front of your son. but you do need to say something to your boyfriend
        GOODBYE
        With all due respect, Your previous abuse has affected the way you select men.
        He's a loser and abuser. You deserve someone that respects you. It is possible to disagree with a person Without disrespecting them. please talk to someone

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  • Killah_B
    10 years ago

    I think it is normal. If you were doing it all the time, it would probably be a little weird. It sounds like to me your family is obviously very close. Friends pee with each other in the bathroom all the time.

    Your boyfriend overreacted, although I can see where he is coming from. You may want to have a serious chit-chat with him.

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  • H8er
    10 years ago

    Um that's weird stop peeing in front of him. Not anything to throw a fit about though.

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  • r3cpo
    6 years ago

    your boyfriend doesnt understand how you and the kids have grown up together . and the wonderful job you have done in raising them by yourself . also the fact that you and the kids are all so close and have probably all seen stuff before many times if you know it or not. so at this point something this simple is surely no big deal at all in this family. so your ok its just the bf that over reacted to the situation.

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  • enigma47
    8 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with peeing in front of your son, regardless of whether he is straight or gay.

    Your boyfriend has serious issues if this offends him so vehemently.

    I hope you have broken up with him. His prudish response is inexcusable

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  • richardbturgid
    10 years ago

    Gay or not its OK. Don't treat your straight son any different.

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  • gins2
    10 years ago

    I don't think it's weird. You guys are used to it and that is simply the way you are.

    In my family I do pee in front of my mom to this day (I am a 17 yrs old girl) and I used to take showers with her when we were late. I have never seen my dad peeing or taking a shower. I don't have a brother, but if I did I'm pretty sure he would take showers with my dad or see him peeing. Just as me and my mom do.

    You have a close family. That's it! There's nothing wrong with it although it is very unusual. This is why your boyriend thought it was weird.

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  • changes123
    10 years ago

    Wow, I grew up in a big family so the restroom was occupied 7/10 times.

    If you had to go, you had to go. That's your son, he doesn't mind, you don't mind. You just had to pee.

    He's also not interested in Women. ++++

    I don't think it's your boyfriends business to begin with... and he doesn't control you or what you do.

    He sounds like a creepy control freak.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I'm all for peeing in front or even on a partner but parents/kids is a bit weird IMO.

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  • q1w2e3
    10 years ago

    You should respect your kids, they are not small anymore and it's not right to pee in front of them.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Going to the toilet is something you do on your own, what is wrong with you people.

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  • Kerry69
    10 years ago

    abratt70 You have a chat with boyfriend
    He probably will understand ;or may be not;

    goodluck.

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  • abratt70
    10 years ago

    My son had a good point he said to me. Mom you gave birth to me you raised me ive known you my entire life we are very close and all of us are very comfortable with each other to boot and its wierd for you to pee while i may be in the bathroom not even paying any attention that your there at all? Your my mother ive never seen you naked i dont even like vagina but it would be perfectly ok for me to walk into a bathroom stall with a bunch of men who are strangers and whip it out And i like Men? Come On!!! Plus i go to a therapist once a week for some stress issues about my job and told her exactly what happened and dhe said im normal and that my boyfriend is the one with the problem and may have issues that im not aware of. Never the less i will respect that it makes him uncomfortable and not do it wich is my own choice because i feel its not a big enough issue to fight over. I could care less if i ever pee in front of anyone again... Thanks for all the comments but truly i feel that you who say its wrong are just conservative and we have different views and or comfort levels.. when you grow up in a house and are one of 8 kids and two parents with only one bathroom you either learn not to be bashfull or you go on the floor and that way of life never leaves you... just saying..

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  • Pwnfacertwn
    10 years ago

    Sexual preference should not matter. I think it's weird when women pee in front of each other, but it's normal enough based on my experiences. I definitely think it's weird for a woman to pee in front of any man with whom you're not having sex. Weirder yet is your boyfriend's reaction.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Yeah i think they are called private parts for a reason.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Fags think they are girls. Girls go to the bathroom together? Get it?

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