Is it normal that i only enjoy being the bottom in my relationship?

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I'm a lesbian in an amazing relationship but sometimes I'm afraid I don't give enough attention to my girl. I enjoy being the "girlfriend" of the relationship during both intimate and non-intimate moments. She says she's perfectly happy with how this is but I still feel kind of bad about it. Of course, I'm not saying I expect her to only please me, I also please her, I just enjoy being the bottom. Trying to top usually ends up squicking me out and making me lose my drive. Is that normal?

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Based on 313 votes (252 yes)
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Comments ( 19 )
  • zebraprintedroses
    10 years ago

    It's just your preference. Nothing wrong with it.

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  • peterrabbyt2
    10 years ago

    Get a fucking sex change!

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    • jaffarcake
      10 years ago

      Why would I want to get a sex change when I enjoy being a female and I don't find males attractive?

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    • Cupcake14
      10 years ago

      Dude. Fuck you. If that makes her happy, suck it up. Homophobe.

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  • JBN
    10 years ago

    One or both of you are missing the correct equipment. Penis envy is common among lesbians.

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    • jaffarcake
      10 years ago

      Noo, we're not missing the equipment at all, we actually have several dildos, vibrators, and strap-ons to remedy this!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Too much details blowing mustard everywhere.

    I love LESBIANS.

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    • jaffarcake
      10 years ago

      Ohhh youuuu

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  • chloroplast
    10 years ago

    I would totally enjoy being the bottom if I were in a relationship, but I know how you feel. It feels like since you are letting her take control you aren't doing enough for the relationship. I think the best thing to do would to be to talk to your mate about these feelings and see what she has to say about it. Honestly, I'm incredibly jealous of you and hope that you can become more comfortable with your partner~ ^.^

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    I like sharting laughing at em

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  • kinklu
    10 years ago

    One of my pet gripes is homophobes and all other judgemental types, people with tiny minds who thing they know everything about how the universe operates, and whose thinking consists of a few simple pigeon holes and anyone who doesn't fit properly into one of these little boxes is to be judged. Enjoy your toys. They probably cost enough that you don't need any homophobes passing judgement on your sexuality. I can'resist saying that nothing is more frustrating than meeting a sexy girl you think you will have sex with at the appropriate moment only to discover she is lesbian and has absolutely no interest in sex with a man. I know!!! Been there...Done that lol!

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  • maxtor51
    10 years ago

    i think lesbians are hot for one thing!! what ever makes you and her happy then go with it!! if you have a problem, talk to her and if you want to try to change something then change and see what both of you think. what is normal, is normal for you.

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  • Ibelievethis
    10 years ago

    Have to emabarass myself here but do you mean.. You like be on the bottom when you are.. Getting friendly? If so there's nothing wrong with preference and whatever works for you is fine. xx

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    • jaffarcake
      10 years ago

      Yes, sweetie, I like to bottom during sex. :)

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  • Avada4567
    10 years ago

    Its perfectly normal. Everyone have their preferences.

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  • LostAndBroken
    10 years ago

    As long as she's fine with it, it doesn't matter.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I guess ideally I want someone who is my equal.

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  • guest1455
    10 years ago

    Some people like to please more than be pleased ans some people like to be dominated other's like to dominate. No shame on your preference

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  • SuperBenzid
    10 years ago

    Seems fairly normal. I think one person tends to towards a specific sexual role in most gay relationships. There are always more bottoms than tops too, so it that sense it is certainly not abnormal.

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