Is it normal that i only care about what people can do for me?

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When I sometimes get in fights with those around me, I immediately think, "I need to resolve this soon before I lose them--because they're useful to me. What would I do if I didn't have them around to do stuff for me?!" Recently, I got into one of those fights. And it dawned on me that, it seems morally wrong to think that way. I manipulate people often and will always find a way to bend to the rules to get what I want, even if I'm repeatedly told it simply can't be done. I feel this way about everyone... My closest friends, brother, father, mother, cousins... I've started to ask myself, do I love them? The answer is unresolved. Like I said, I only care about what people can do for me. Besides that, I mostly feel nothing towards them.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    All i want to do is help people but i end up destroying them.

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  • LoveMyCottonShirt
    7 years ago

    I think this is called "clinical narcissism" - and yea, I think this exact same way. Probably not normal tho.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    The first step is admitting you have a problem.

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  • Anewbis
    7 years ago

    Well... congratulations are in order. You sir or ma'am have just taken the first step down the magical pathway of empathy.
    Without ever realising that constructing relationships around what others can do for you is fundamentally wrong, you can never even question your own motives and desires.

    Good on you.
    Cheers.

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