Is it normal that i offered my son whatever he wants?

Your life will only be a waste if you allow him to do that. I love videogames, but still do good in school, but I used to be just like your son. I didn't see a purpose in school, no reward besides a good grade that noone cares about. Beating a videogame gives you a sense of accomplishment and overcoming a challenge. Perhaps you should reward him more for good behavior, and don't get angry when he's bad, just be disappointed, it's a lot worse. He needs time for both videogames and school, work and play. Not all one and none of the other.

do all this and just when he's getting comfortable, rip it all away. stop paying for EVERYTHING and this may be difficult but dont even help him out when hes a homeless piece of shit on the street. you want your life back? force him to either get good or get homeless. if you dont have the balls to do this then you deserve to look after his lazy ass for the rest of your life. if you have ANY sort of love for him whatsoever, then do him a favour and kick that bastard to the curb.

I am a child that has been offered the world, and it's pretty much ruined me. I never learned proper self-discipline or the value of a dollar, and as a result I've ended up forcing myself to throw everything I own away and move 2,000 miles away from family and college to start everything from scratch. Don't do this to your kid. Don't. You need to be assertive. You need to have him pay for his cell phone. You need to have him pay for his car insurance. You need to have him pay for when his computer breaks. If you don't do this, he won't respect a single thing in the world and will become violently depressed to the point of suicide.

Your waaaay too co-dependent. You need to give him tough love. Don't pay for ANY of his shit unless he starts applying himself at school and/or work.

No it's not teaching him anything about life.

Get rid of the video games. He can earn them back through good grades and a job.

you didn't waste your life. you are just really burnt out .. I have five children and a bunch of grandkids and they do stupid things sometimes that annoy me and get me mad but I never thought as being a good mom as being a waste of time...
you should go on strike for a couple days and let him fend for himself a little he will get it together.

Lead by example. Enough said.

NOT NORMAL AT ALLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!! BE A MAN AND WIN SOME RESPECT OUT OF YOUR SON. you deserve the respect u are his father. ;)

I say it's normal to want ur kids to be happy, but how will he learn to stand up on his own two feet in the real world if he knows you're gonna be there to carry him the whole way?
If you want to make him happy, support the decisions he does make but don't let him decide to live off you for the rest of his life because that isn't living.

Id say make him pay for his own stuff. He's not your responsibility forever. Just be there for moral support.

You baby him so much now and he will neve learn to stand on his own two feet like a man.

I just want peace and it's the only way I can think to get some. He is only 16 so I have to support him until he is 18.

But yes, JuliusE 'tough love' here I come. I will stop the contract for his cell phone and his internet connection, to prevent distractions.

You've wasted your life.

don't be fucking pathetic. if he doesn't want to abide by your rules tell him to go to a shelter. don't be a PUSHOVER.