Is it normal that i never want to get married?

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I never want to get married because all around me people are getting divorced or seem unhappy in their marriage (eg my parents fight a lot).

I've mentioned this to one of my friends who believes she wants to marry her boyfriend oneday and she believes that this won't happen to them - but aren't most marriages successful in the beginning? People don't get married, intending that they'll want to get divorced in years time.

I just think that maybe people aren't meant to be together for that long. So I never want to get married - I would just live with my partner, and oneday if we feel we've grown too far apart to keep the relationship going, we can split without the complicated divorce.

But then again, I've never been in a serious relationship; what would I know?

Does anybody else feel this way?

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  • mayadukkha
    13 years ago

    Totally normal and I totally agree. I will NEVER get married. I don't need a piece of paper to commit to another person that I'm in love with. Why doesn't everyone save the money and the drama? Maybe if everyone would stop getting married more people would be staying together instead of running the other way in a few years time. JUST DON'T DO IT!!! it's never a good idea.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Unless you are gay. Then you NEED that piece of paper, and damn the world to oblivion if you can't join the hetero's secret club.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I agree, but for a different reason. I'd be a terrible husband and an even more terrible father, so I will not allow myself to become either.

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  • squirrelgirl
    13 years ago

    I don't want to get married either. It's too much responsibility for me. Besides, I don't trust men enough to marry one.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      What a coincidence, I don't trust women. AND I like squirrels...fried in butter. Maybe we were meant to be together, squirrelgirl.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    It really depends on the people. Some people jump into it too quickly. I think before you get married you should live with the person for awhile so that you both can see how you really are all your bad and good habits. If that goes well after a year or more then make sure you DO NOT have children. To me, having a child before marriage means definite divorce. You need to have time to enjoy being together and being married for awhile before you jump into having a kid.

    I think marriages can work but both people need to be willing to work at keeping their relationship going strong years to come.

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  • Cheet0
    7 years ago

    Completely normal. Marriage is overrated anyway

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    I blame king Henry for ruining marriage. He started this!

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    I do not want to get married either. Not like anyone else is faithful enough to keep a commitment anyhow. Least not a very large percent of those people left in this world.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal to not wanna get married but I'm a divorcée. Honestly, I don't wanna live with anyone either. I'm happy not cooking or cleaning for anyone other than myself and I never have to deal with some idiot hogging my tv remote. If someone wants to see me they can take me out and I'm fine going Dutch as long as everything stays platonic. Either way I'm happy to come home alone to peace and quiet. My home is my domain!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Marriage = big mistake.

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  • kimchi
    13 years ago

    I totally agree. Marriage is a way to trap and hold on to you! Easier to part ways when things get ugly if you're not bound by law. I'm never getting married. If it's really love and meant to be then let it be. Why put chains on it? All my friends who were together for years before getting married, happy and perfect, are now enemies in nasty divorce battles or just miserable and dealing with it cuz they can't break free.

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    Totally normal! I don't want to get married. People change. How do we know that in 20 years, the person we feel in luv with an married are still going to be the same? Or our needs in a partner wont change? We don't!

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  • andyzx1
    13 years ago

    marriage is out, promiscuous behavior is in, do you think you can handle it punk!

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