Is it normal that i never had an orgasm?

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I am a 20 yr old female and I have never had an orgasm. I tried everything from having sex with my boyfriend, using toys or even trying out new things that could bring me to orgasm but no matter how hard I try, I can’t seem to orgasm at all.

I’m worried that maybe there’s something wrong with me or maybe that it isn’t normal to have a orgasm. I tried asking professionals but they never gave me good advice. Help?

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Based on 12 votes (5 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    Maybe spend a few hours thinking about stuff that turns you on and pay attention to how your body reacts

    Don't watch porn, just lie down and think sex. Look for cues from your body and investigate them

    Take a bath, shave and use lotion, drink wine, watch a feel good movie with someone like Ryan Reynolds (or whoever :p)

    Maybe have something decadent, like dark chocolate. Definitely light candles. Caress yourself to see what feels good, giving yourself tingles is the best!

    Do stretches, I recommend your inner thighs and all around your legs. Like doing splits, but also focus on each leg individually. Do really deep, slow, intense stretches. That should activate some muscles :3

    And maybe most importantly...

    Really motivate yourself to get into it

    Like, seriously imagine you're having sex with yourself, think thoughts to yourself

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    Try using a vibrating wand. Those are alot stronger and easier to use.

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    • LloydAsher
      3 years ago

      I'm a large supporter of sex toys. Honestly my dream low paying job to help pay for college is to work in a sex shop. I'm fascinated about sex not just in the normal boy likes sex mentality but of more a general fascination with the mechanics and pleasures derived from it.

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  • sun-tanning
    3 years ago

    No sorry its not normal but probably sadly not that uncommon.

    I would love to try to help you reach a orgasm if you would allow me.

    One thing you could do is shave yourself bare, that will make it more sensitive and fell so much better. Practice makes perfect. You need to be playing with yourself every day. Maybe ask one of your girl friends who are good at giving themselves a orgasm and ask them to watch you and help you. Maybe they have ways that you do not know.

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    • litelander8
      3 years ago

      Dude, fuck off.

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    • LloydAsher
      3 years ago

      Man you are a desperate fuck arent you? People like you that go about at these low moments or not feeling out a room is a prime specimen for the incel community.

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  • have_a_good_day
    3 years ago

    Orgasms, and sex in general, is just as much mental as it is physical.
    Yo man need to take care of his queen. You tell yo man : "yo, you need to take care of your hoe, dawg"

    Tell dat fool he needs to tap that button like he is aggressively pounding on a button of the gameshow he is competing in.
    The least a nigga can do is seeing to it that his main hoe gets jellylegs and wet the entire duvet.

    You tell dat fool : "you do me, I do laundry"

    And it won't hurt to get slapped along the sides of yo ribs whilst he be tapping that thang

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    • litelander8
      3 years ago

      Lol. Yeah. Except for the laundry stuff. 😂

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