Is it normal that i never had a boyfriend at my age?

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i'm 24 years old (!!!) and i never in my life had a boyfriend/date/kiss-nothing. i know that i'm smart,funny,not the most beautiful flower in the garden but cute-looking and i just don't understand why no one is hitting on me.it's seriously makes me feel invisible.is it normal that at my age i have no expiriance?and it is normal that i am ambaressed to tell others that i never had a boyfreind? i found myself sometimes lying to people(not my friends)when asked if i date with someone..

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  • nAt2017
    12 years ago

    I'm sure it's fine. It's not about age when it comes to dating. It's better to wait all your life for the right man than to keep dating wrong ones and get your heart broken all the time.

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    • Yitzach
      12 years ago

      That said, you can't know what you want if you don't know what you don't want.

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  • suckonthis9
    12 years ago

    I have to disagree with the above comment. I feel that you should have by now had some sexual interaction. When you see a male that you like, tell him. If men repeatedly ignore your advances, ask them why? Many men are turned on by a woman who makes the initial advance. Hopefully you will find an honest and compassionate man. Do not feel embarrassed that you have not had any experience, but you should tell him.

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    • LoveBug<3
      12 years ago

      so how do i approach someone i like? i'm kind of scared to be rejected (long story..).what do guys like? what should i say? how should i act?

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      • Yitzach
        12 years ago

        Think about all of the terrible decisions you would have made in life if you'd never heard "no".

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      • suckonthis9
        12 years ago

        We are all afraid of being rejected, women and men alike.
        You have asked some very straightforward questions, I like that and so will many other men. Approach a male with a smile on your face, glance at him ( everywhere ), don't stare. Tell him what you like about him ( physically ), then tell him that you would like to know more about him. Make sure ( ask him ) that he is single and not involved in a relationship. Most importantly, BE YOURSELF, tell him about you. Make eye contact when it is appropriate. Be a little flirtatious IF you sense it is appropriate. See where the conversation leads. Don't give up if you are rejected, try again.

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  • Yitzach
    12 years ago

    The #1 reason for thinking you're a "normal" person and not understanding why you can't attract the opposite sex is:

    lack of self awareness.

    This goes to the reply to lonelyboy's post, as much as the original post.

    All people are attracted to confidence, but are dissuaded by arrogance. You may ask, how can you tell the difference?

    In simple terms, confidence is being confident in your actual abilities/traits. Note: you can also read comfort/comfortable.

    Arrogance is being confident in abilities/traits that you either don't have, or are somehow inaccurate.

    Learn to live with yourself before you try to live with others.

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  • Saycheese
    12 years ago

    You shouldn't feel embarressed at all. You just haven't found the right guy yet and NOBODY is PERFECT. Just be yourself and he will come a long and so what if it isn't normal that nothing hasn't happened yet. There really isn't a such thing as normal.

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  • mim90
    12 years ago

    everything happens for a reason. it might take a little longer for your prince charming to get to you but trust me it will probably be worth the wait! everything takes time just be paitent put yourself out there and he will eventually come to you .

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    hmmmm...
    Well it all depends on a number of factors, if you for example go to bars then you should at least get hit on.
    May I ask what country you're in?

    As I almost always say, it's not normal but there is nothing wrong with it.
    Just take your time and eventually you'll find the right guy.

    (I'm 18 by the way and I've never had a girlfriend but I did do some weird shit when I went to Germany last summer)

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    • LoveBug<3
      12 years ago

      i'm from israel,and i do go to bars but all that approach me are freaks or drunk..or maybe i'm just very judgemental?
      i remember being 18 and with no boyfriend,and believe me time definitly flew since then.

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      • Yitzach
        12 years ago

        That does sound judgmental. Extremely, in fact. Do you honestly believe people act they way they do in bars 100% of the time?

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  • lonelyboy
    12 years ago

    aww...I'm a 19 year old boy, and I've never even had my first hand-holding. If I met you I'm sure I'd probably at least flirt with you....if not try to go out with you. I'm love starved too....if any old girl asked me out I wouldn't say yes to any old one, but 99% of them I would at least follow up with, maybe try and get her number?

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    • Yitzach
      12 years ago

      Given your past history, I'd be willing to bet you WOULDN'T flirt with her.

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