Is it normal that i never get attached to anyone or anything?

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I wouldn't say that I am a cold person. I believe that I am actually quite sociable and friendly with people when we interact. In fact, I consider myself to be a popular guy, I was never physically alone in my life. I can make friends and get into relationships quite easily... but the issue is that I can let anyone go quite easily as well.

There were 3 moments when I completely changed environments in my life: when I graduated from high school, when I graduated from the university and when I moved to another country. In the first 2 it was mostly about friends... but with the last one I actually left behind even my family and my culture.

Even after all of this, I just have never missed anyone. I guess that deep inside I just know that I will keep meeting new people. However, it is not that I resent people, think that they are not good enough or that I have the "new is always better" mentality. Whenever I find someone long neglected I am still super friendly and I usually feel as if we just talked the previous day.

To put it bluntly, I just don't care enough to bother. I don't feel like clinging to people if the interaction is going to have complications in between. When people who are not in my life anymore try to keep in touch, I even feel a little bothered about it.

My main concern is that I would actually like to be able to make real connections and to lay "roots". Even though I am never alone I still feel lonely all the time. I have never felt like I have a home or even somewhere to return to. And even though I have never talked about this with anyone, people who get close to me notice this trait. My family and some of my girlfriends have told me this phrase several times: "I am scared that someday you are just going to disappear".

Anyway... I just wanted to know if anyone has experienced something similar. What do you think people?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    That feeling of loneliness despite not technically being alone is because you haven't made any authentic connections with people. If you let yourself be truly vulnerable in your relationships, then you will experience a deeper connection, instead of the superficial ones you've been having so far.

    Treat your relationships like they are precious to you because they should be. Friendships are not disposable and it's rather callous of you to treat them that way.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I guess that you are right... but I just cannot avoid this. I have really gotten close to many people in my life and shared both good and bad times. However, it just doesn't matter, I am just not able to feel attached to anyone. There were actually a few times when I decided to give it a try and see if I can reconnect with people... but it just doesn't work with me, it actually feels awkward and unsettling.

      But well, as I said, I really would like for this to change.

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    "I consider myself to be a popular guy"

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    When you see my cock you will want to get attached immediately just like everyone else.

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    • Buttslut
      10 years ago

      When you stick it in my Butt, you will want to get immediately attached. Like the Human Centipede.

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