Is it normal that i never feel good about myself?

Is it normal that no matter how much praise I get for doing something well I still hate myself and feel like I'm not good enough? I have been a musician since i was 13 (I'm 18 now) and lately I've been getting complimented on my singing/playing. I even got a rather difficult solo in choir, but I still feel stupid and untalented and I pretty much hate myself. So is it weird to feel like I'm horrible at everything I do, even when I know I'm doing it well?

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  • kingofcarrotflowers

    You are saying that everyone else is praising you. What do you want to do? set yourself a goal, maby something you have always wanted to do or learn.

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  • Iamagirl

    I also feel terrible about myself but I don't get praised. In fact I get ridiculed a lot especially by my friends.

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  • Antir0b0t

    There's clearly and underlying issue causing you to feel this trauma and self-loathing. You might not really know it now, seeing as you haven't explored that possibility. (Your sub-conscious is a powerful thing.)

    I'm only saying this because I've realized this about myself recently. I am way to damn hard on myself. My self-esteem is low, even though I too highly praised at my place of work for outstanding performance. I have a great figure and lovely freckles and a cute nose. <3 ..Anyways, my naivety to this damage I was doing to myself caused a lot of pain for myself down the road. I am very insecure and let things get to me, I'm not really comfortable in my own skin.

    Possibly this could be similar to your experiences? I also can say my behavior is related to a mood disorder and a history of depression. I have found certain green medicine that has worked the best for my social anxiety/depression. In turn helping me be more capable to be comfortable with myself again. Probably want to talk to a doctor, I didn't like anti-depressants. Smoking a jay doesn't make me feel like a hallow zombie. But it's not for everyone.

    Hope I helped in some way. Toodles.

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  • bemah

    It's nice that your doing all this stuff, but if your not happy with the praise your getting, maybe it's because your not achieving the things you'd like to. Try something different, work on your own personal goals rather than trying to be better than others. I've played instruments, done well in school, and i know how you feel. Just take some time for yourself, and figure out what you really need or want to do with your life.

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  • 12345678oct

    No number of people telling you that you are amazing will make you feel that way. It has to come from within... Is it possible you're afraid that feeling good about yourself will make you "conceited"? If so, confidence and arrogance are two very different things, and there is no wrong in feeling content in your own skin. If you truly don't like what you see in yourself, maybe it would be best to learn to love it, or change it. If you think you are sensitive, for example, maybe learn to cope with situations differently. Also, try not to compare yourself to others, because I know that makes me feel inferior a lot. Best of luck!

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  • DADNSCAL

    It sounds lik during your formative years(2-6) you were constantly belittled and criticized. You need to get past it and improve your self-esteem.

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  • OsamaBinMarijuladen

    You just have to become comfortable with yourself and your abilities, perhaps you've exceeded your goal and dont know where to go, i bet your amazing

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  • Anime7

    Listen to what those people are saying, they're praising you. Just take the compliment. I know its easier said than done, but try telling yourself, "why am I sad?" Perhaps after awhile you'll come up with a couple of good reasons as to why you shouldn't be.

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