Is it normal that i need to get drunk to make love with my boyfriend?

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Sometimes when my boyfriend approaches me for sex i feel like i need one or two glasses of wine or some vodka in order to chill a bit, I feel like I'm much more relaxed and I can get wild and everything and when I'm sober it just seems so dull and the envy doesn't come naturally I need much more time

It is normal or should I seek help from a therapist

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Based on 75 votes (25 yes)
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  • itisnorm
    7 years ago

    "The envy doesn't come naturally" what does this mean?

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    • kelliekelliekellie
      7 years ago

      it means that whenever i'm in bed with my boyfriend and I am sober i feel like i have few or no sex drive.. but when I drink it's all different

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  • Goomats
    7 years ago

    You are either:
    A) not sexually attracted to your boyfriend
    B) an alcoholic
    C) both

    You should either:
    A) break up with your boyfriend
    B) quit drinking
    C) both

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    • iwannajerk4you
      7 years ago

      Or D
      Have a drink and get laid

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  • sourgrapes
    7 years ago

    No its not bloody well normal.ffs.

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  • Sarajeremy
    4 years ago

    Not normal. You probably don't love or feel sexually attracted to him anymore.

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  • CommunismTho
    7 years ago

    Try relaxing a bit, breathing slower and more shallow, or using pillows in certain positions to relax your muscles. The angle also affects how it feels a lot. And if ur sex drive feels low (in my opinion it's normal, u can't be 100% turned on all the time) try focusing on the little things. I,e the little grunts and breaths your bf might do, the softness of their skin, lips or eyes, or simply being there in the moment and knowing your making your man feel good. Sex is quite a sacred thing of it's own, but it does get a bit dull if you focus your attention inward or just on yourself. In my experience getting drunk really does help and if your not getting shitfaced everyday, I don't believe you have a problem. Although it's nice to notice the little details of your partner whislt sober. Just remember to relax :)

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  • itisnorm
    7 years ago

    People both male and female have a higher sex drive. You probably aren't very experienced also things will become more naturally and flow better with time.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    7 years ago

    I do too but i have anxiety and body issues

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  • Topshelf1406
    7 years ago

    It's normal if you have been sexually assaulted or if you are ashamed in some way. I would see a therapist for sure.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      It's not that I'm ashamed or if I was sexually assaulted... I have had a very strict education and no one would tell me anything about sex and they would make a fuss of it and it really traumatized me for a long time ... yeah i'll probably see one, thanks

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  • hgjukbjk
    7 years ago

    You should do ecstasy instead.

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