Is it normal that i miss him?

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So ive been in a very unhealthy relationship for almost 4 years now. Things used to be soo good between us. It was like I was a princess from a fairy tale and he was my prince charming. As time passed with our realtionship things started to get bad. We started fighting argueing and name calling all the time. Then things would be really good for a little while. Im head over heels for this guy. Well as time went on it got to the point where we were literally fighting each other. Then we would make up and things would be good again for awhile. Each fight we got into time after time they got worse and worse. Up until the last fight I had a black eye from him. Dont know exactly how he gave it to me because it all happened so fast I just know it happened from us fighting. We made up probably a week later. We were talking up until a couple days after thanksgiving. Well it ended up that I had no place to live anymore so I was forced to move with my parents out of state. I didnt even get a chance to say goodbye to him and its been tearing me apart. Come to find out the reason I wasnt able to get ahold of him was because he was in jail. I didnt find this out til AFTER I left state and it just broke my heart.... Ive tried getting over him leaving him dating other guys... But they just never seem to compare to him when things are good. All i can do is cry and miss him since I left state. I dont understand why I feel the way I do about him and i dont understand why I keep going back to him even after the abuse. Is something wrong with me? Why do I continue to put myself through all the fighting? Why do I miss him and just want more than anything in the world to hear his voice right now and just hold him? Is it normal to feel this way about someone even after countless times of them telling you that they were gonna change their ways and not abuse you anymore? And yet I still continue to miss him and love him. And im upset that the last time we had talked we fought and I didnt even get a goodbye kiss before I left? Is it normal that i got in contact with his father so I could give him my address so we could write each other while hes locked up?

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    You keep posting your same story! What different answer are you expecting? You should meet him after he's released and sort things out. Abuse is not worth any relationship. You both need to take some time off and think what you are doing wrong.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I know someone who has a similar relationship. She loved this guy, even though he has a record, cheated on her multiple times, gave her a disease, and left her a lot, she loves him with all her heart and at the end of the day, so does he. I know most people would look at it and say it's an unhealthy relationship, but I can tell how much they love each other. Plus, eventually, they ended up staying together and working things out. If you really love him, and you feel like it's right, then I would stay with him and fight for him. I would try to make things work as best as I could and let him know that no matter what, I loved him. Sometimes love isn't enough, but it all depends on if your really willing to fight for it and talk things out.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    The heart wants what the heart wants, even if these feelings sometimes defy logic. I do believe that the only true way to get over a person you have loved is to find someone who you love more.

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