Is it normal that i "manipulate" my mom?

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I don't know if this is true, because my mom's not that smart and likes to use "big" words, even though she uses them incorrectly. My mom says i manipulate her, but i don't think so. She's always upset because she's fat but she doesn't eat right. She won't eat dinner, but she'll snack on cheese all night long. I'm always scolding her because she gets on my nerves with the "I'm fat" card, yet all she does is eat and watch Spanish soap operas. We don't even communicate with each other, all she wants to do is watch TV and i hate TV, so we don't talk to each other. She's so obsessed with it that she has fallen asleep while watching TV, and when i tell her to go to her room, she says she's "watching" TV. I feel as though i had to raise myself sometimes, which bothers me because it's not my fault that i treat her like a little kid, she needs to grow up and act like an adult and stop saying "I work hard". I go to work and school, full-time, and i don't complain. I'm sorry, if I'm too mean, i just hate living with her.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Maybe your mom doesn't know that cheese is pure fat - perhaps you could substitute it for the low fat variety?

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  • brok
    12 years ago

    Everyone goes through a stage of seeing fault in their parents, and it is amazing how much fault we can find! It's part of your own development as you begin to see things in a much more mature way, it's part of the teenage life and sometimes it seems you can't cope with it.
    Your mother could even enjoy the criticism she gets from you as a sort of "Well at least she notices me," reaction. I am a bit worried about the "When I tell her to go to her room." It isn't you place to tell her any such thing. If mum falls asleep in front of the TV, that is her choice. You do your own thing and if she is still there when you get up in the morning, she will be the one with the aching joints, not you.
    Try to 'chill out' a little, be yourself, screaming at mum won't help. So let her have her own life but always be ready to be a daughter, she may need you one day!

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    move out...that is all

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  • Crudhouse
    12 years ago

    Every relationship is dysfunctional in some way. My sister can manipulate my mom into doing anything she wants, but from what your story says it's working the other way around.

    Since you're in school it would be stupid to move out. Ignore the retards that are being negative. From the looks of it you're doing great by going to school and working part-time.

    At some point you realize that your parents are just people trying to do the best they can...and many people have a lot of mental hangups that keep them from doing the things they want. That realization will come...but in the meantime good luck with your schedule.

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