Is it normal that i'm treated this way?

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Whoever reads this please help me, I have been with my girlfriend for about 3  1/2 years, ive never cheated, layed hands on her, NEVER treated her bad, I don't have no fancy car, or alot of money. But as a guy I like to work because I like to be the top provider in the relationship (makes me feel more of a man I guess I would assume that goes for a lot of guys out there). I used to do things for her get her food whenever she was hungry, gift cards to get clothes, shoes whatever, backrub, get her little surprises, id try my best to get her what she would want even if it was the last $5 i had in my pocket spend time with her basically I would do the best I CAN to show her I care for her. But i stopped all that because she treats me like shit, she has a short temper, but over a period of time it has become worse she has kicked on me, hit on me, threw my stuff out of the house, calls me stupid, tell me she hates me, wish i was dead, she doesn't even tell me " i love you" or "i miss you" it sucks because I don't understand I know she has a big temper but it's like she finds just about everything to argue about, she has become less physical more verbal and the things she say to me hurt deeper then anything since we have been to gather she has never got me anything, my birthday/ fathers day (yes I'm a dad me and her do have a son)  on both occasions she didnt do nothing for me to make it a lil special and what kind of hurt was she told me happy bday/ fathers day as I was walking out her house?, I got her bath and body stuff for mothers day, somethings in the bath set she could use, others she can't because her skin, she never took a look at it when I brung it over, never said thank you, infact she didn't want it and gave it to her mom, i forgive and forget a lot but is it really normal to put up with this behavior,I DNT ask for nothing she doesnt have to get me a damn thing all I want is for her to show me she cares about me, talk to me, make me feel like u care tell me you love me that  you miss me and she doesnt even do that... I just want us together I want a family, but her attitude is keeping us wayyy back,  any advise would be helpful! I really love this girl
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  • kupokupo
    11 years ago

    Hmm... This is pretty bad dude. Would talking to her about it make things worse? Clearly she's verbally abusive and I understand how much that hurts, but you REALLY need to sort things out. She has to change drastically or you should leave. I wish you all the best.

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  • icanhascheezburger
    11 years ago

    This is obviously a toxic relationship and she's taking you for granted. From what you've said you've given her many chances to try and change the way she behaves and she still continues to treat you very badly and it's just shifted from physical to verbal. Keep in mind that despite what anyone tells you, you can still be abused and mistreated by a girl. Ask yourself if you could honestly see yourself marrying this girl in the long term especially if it continues to get worse while you're dating, which is the test, you'll just end up getting yourself even more hurt in the end. If you do end up breaking up with her, she may try the old i'll change if you keep me tactic, don't fall for it, move on.. Get your life in order for a couple weeks or so, make her see that you are serious and make her think about her actions for a little while. Then if you still want to give it another go, talk to her and set up rules for the relationship: such as she's not to touch you aggressively or verbally abuse you in any manner you don't find appropriate or the relationship is over and be serious about it. I really hope you can work things out, sometimes it takes a wake up call to change people for the better and when they realize what they may potentially lose.

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  • lb1612
    10 years ago

    Sorry but it sounds like you're being totally taken for granted. She obviously thinks she can treat you like shit and you're always gonna hang around and take it, why not leave, I know you have a son so I voted try and make it work, but only if she starts to appreciate you are not a door mat. Stand up to her, you are only treated how you allow others to treat you, you deserve better but you also must never let yourself be emotionally bullied by anyone. I would know, there's a lot of us like you.

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  • Nogoodusernames
    11 years ago

    Hi and what i read saddened me. Your such a good guy and shes a bitch. I understand that you love her and would do anything, and thats whats making this all hard for you. Love hurts more than it heals and in your case, its hurting alot. Though u love her, she doesnt deserve you and is using u. I know it hurts but end it ASAP.

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  • cookiesaregreat
    11 years ago

    Im sorry she's treating you this way.. It really doesn't seem fair from her, you sound like a good guy. Because you two have a child I think you cant just 'move on', but I'm not sure it will work out anymore either.

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  • jitterbug66
    11 years ago

    You love her? She probably doesn't love you. Time to cut the cord. I know it's easier said than done, but you should do it for your own good.

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  • [email protected]
    11 years ago

    Quit being a glutton for punishment and move on.

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