Is it normal that i'm this afraid of rejection?

I'm a guy and I'm turning 21 real soon. There's this girl in university that I have a huge crush on. She's really nice to me. I've known her for about a year, but we'd only talk for like 2 minutes every time we crossed paths. A few months ago we had a longer conversation than usual, and after it was over she suggested that we trade numbers and text each other, that's great. I texted her one time and she texted me back, it was a nice conversation. But the next time I did she didn't text back. But, I didn't persist so I wouldn't appear pushy. In university I am rather shy when I ask if I could sit next to her and hang out with her and her friends for a bit and it's pretty obvious, but she says yes, which is nice. She told me to walk her to one of her classes one time. I even suggested that we hang out over the weekend, and she said "call me". But this is where it gets hard. Picking up my phone and touching the call button. I just lay there looking at her number, but I can't seem to get my thumb to make the call, it's frustrating. Eventually I was able to do so the other day, but she said she was busy and that we could talk the next day. So today I tried doing the same thing, and it took forever to get the balls to call her again (she didn't answer my text, so I thought maybe a call could work). However, I got no answer. Is she trying to avoid me? Does she not like me? Is it normal that I'm nearly 21 and I'm this afraid of rejection and worried of what the girl thinks of me? I feel as if I'm 13 and asking out a girl for the first time.

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  • supaflyafro

    i think you may be shy because you don't like yourself. if you like yourself then there is no reason to be shy.no girl should ever make you shy because everyone is similar in a way. think of how your parents are. what if your dad was to shy to ask out your mom you would not exist. being shy is actually a waste of time.

    i say that because i have been there. being shy to do something leaves you a 0% chance of success. be confident in yourself and in order to do that is to like things about yourself that you can be proud of.

    also, you have to look and dress attractive, if you have not been doing that lately. the same reason why you would be so attracted to a girl is the same reason why a girl would be attracted to a guy at first glance. because she think he is so attractive. that is a method to getting noticed by a girl. after that it is your personality that could make her leave or stay.

    if she would even so much as want to call and text you then you do that. if you are too shy then you may as hell not speak to her because like i said before:being shy leaves you no success imho

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  • gncp

    everyone's afraid of rejection...

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  • Marisol

    Please ask her out. If you don't do it now, you will most probably regret not doing it. This could turn out to be the best thing you do. Don't be afraid of rejection and don't take it to heart if she does reject you. Get the courage and let us know how it turns out :D

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    • Pandabear16

      I agree and I also want to know how it turns out. To me this is looking like a nice love story somehow. O.o

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      • Marisol

        I hope it will be :)

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        • Pandabear16

          Ohh it better be >:)

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          • metallover1991

            Thanks, but unfortunately I found out she has a boyfriend. That shatters my universe :( Oh well, I guess we'll just be friends then :/

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            • Pandabear16

              What!?!? That can't be right. :/ are you certain that was her boyfriend?

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  • Anime7

    Calm down man, you're over thinking this whole situation. I think we've all gotten cold feet around a person that we really like, but we push through our anxieties. Everyone is afraid of rejection, but this girl seems to like you. I think that you should work up the nerve to ask her on a date. Pick up the phone and call her, she will say yes.

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