Is it normal that i'm terrified of giving birth?

i had a baby last year...this was one thing i was soo worried about. this and pooping during delivery - omg i would die. my doc's practice wouldn't do elective c-sections but my baby's shoulder's measured pretty wide on sonograms and they said she wouldn't fit so i had a c-section anyway. i don't have much of a scar and even though recovery was longer i didn't have that cut or rip deal to worry about and my lady parts are still tight like before so everything is still very fun ;) with big babies it's easier to have a c-section. i was extremely glad i went that route. plus they are planned in advance so you can usually avoid last min rush to hospital or someone important not being there.

Hi all! I think it's normal because you passed through a traumatizing event wow! I have two kids and my first was 6 lbs 3 oz and I was cut it wasn't that bad. Honeslty the pain of feeling like your going to rip hurt me most. My second was 7 lbs 3 oz and no ripping or cutting. Idk I love my kids and I feel that they were worth it. So I think that you should just find a doctor that you can trust. Ask him, what will you do if it looks like I'm going to rip? I didn't and now I wish I would have. Because my cousin delivered her baby with another doctor that's shares practice with my doctor and she said that her doctor helped her, because it looked like she was going to rip too, until she delivered without ripping or cutting. My doctor first sign of danger cut!! Again it was much easier to deliver my baby after that and my recovery was normal. So I think that when you find a doctor that you'll feel comfortable with, when you do have babies, you'll feel more confortable knowing that he'll do his best to take care of you and your baby. Have you considered C-section?

I am terrified as well!! Hoping if I ever give birth, the baby will weigh betwen 5 and 7 pounds!

well, cutting is better than ripping.

your mothers problem can be corrected surgically if she chooses.

don't let this fear get in your way if it is in your plans to have a family.

i am sure many women speak to there doctors about this concern.

Giving birth ruins your body. No matter what to do to try to make the process less painful, u will never be the same afterwards. This is the truth. I suggest that u wait until your old and ready to have kids. It's good that your scared. Be scared.

im never having a baby and this is one of the reasons why and i just dont like kids lmao

It is perfectly normal to be afraid of giving birth. If you don't want to give birth to a large baby, then don't overeat during pregnancy. Ignore the old wives' tale that you're eating for two and try not to gain more than around 20 pounds.

Another thing, if a woman is small and the man who fathers her baby is a great deal taller, the baby will likely be large. Keep this in mind when picking a mate and choose a man your height or no more than 2 or 3 inches taller.

I can't believe that I will still get responses on this several years after first posting it. I am actually 5 months pregnant now. Still really scared, but looking very much forward to meeting my daughter.

I'm scared too. Worst part I'm pregnant!!!! The way I see it. Its gonna be the most painful day of my life. But it's just one day!