Is it normal that i'm stuck with a friend like this?

I have this friend who spreads very, very subtle lies about me. The bigger of such saying that I ran away when a fight broke out on two occasions(I never join fights but I'll shove a guy around to protect a friend if I have to). I ran from neither, and in fact joined in them to try and protect a friend. The first time he said this to my girlfriend who called me a coward, but I was lucky I had a friend who was able to stand up for me and tell me that it was not true. But the second time it was just me and him, so many people think his "side" of the story is the true one. He also points blame to me in any situation he can and tries to downplay any minor achievement I make. It's all really subtle but happens quite often and he passes ALL of this onto my ex girlfriend who now thinks I'm a coward who does nothing but mess up people's plans.
I can't easily stop being friends with him. Not only is he heavily ingrained into my circle of friends (to the point that I would probably lose one good friend if I outcast him), but his family and mine are on very good terms and they tend to visit a lot.
It feels like he's trying to outdo me in everything. Coming from someone about 4 years younger than me, who used to look up to me.

is it normal to have a friend like this? It's really stressful how he spreads these small lies about me, especially to someone like my ex girlfriend who tried to leave the relationship on good terms, and I cared about her enough that it will hurt if I find she has a bad opinion of me. Especially one that is false.

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Comments ( 9 )
  • Faceless

    Fuckin fight him. Or wait till he drunkenly falls asleep one night and piss on his crotch. Or in a container then pour it on his crotch so then its less gay that way. He'll think he pissed himself and he'll never know. Then you can tell everyone he pissed himself which is a lie. Itll be great.

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    • xsparkykainx

      this dudes idea is hilarious

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  • Anime7

    Try not to hang out with him. By this I mean see if you can have your circle of friends but try to hang out with the group but don't invite him to stuff. That's about all I can think of.

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  • Legion

    no true friend would do something like that.

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  • xsparkykainx

    maybe you looked down on him too much or didnt appreciate him enough its obvious he's mad about something

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    • Mmmpfh

      Ya I've thought the same myself, though this started because he was spreading lies about me. I only started to look down on him after he told an ex girlfriend about how I ditched a friend in trouble when I did no such thing. She thought very badly about me because of that and I was very lucky I had another friend to help me show her the truth.

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  • TheSecret

    I would say try to distance yourself from him, and confront him if you can. Like maybe call him out on a lie sometime or just be like "you always twist and exaggerate stories, calm down". idk he seems like a bitch.

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    • Mmmpfh

      Ya I have called him out on it, and it's commonly accepted that he twists the truth too much. But when people only hear his side of the story then they believe what they hear, which is a problem until someone else can point out the truth.
      Hard to get some distance from him since he's so ingrained into my group of friends

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  • Jeaneathean

    I had a friend like that. It is a subtle form of bullying. Not my mate any more.

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