Is it normal that i'm stuck socially and don't know what to do?

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I'm beginning to understand that there's a rigid path that people are supposed to take though life, and if you don't follow that you are just left in the dust.

Everyone that I know who is in a serious relationship or married met their partner in college. And most of their friends are people they knew in college or friends of people that they knew in college.

I didn't make many friends in college, and the ones that I did make I rarely see. I've tried making new friends and dating, but it's next to impossible build a relationship when we're both devoting 10+ hours a day to work. The ones with a thriving social life are the ones who already had a strong one when they left college.

I feel like I missed the boat and things are hopeless now. I try branching out, but I get the impression that no one has time to reciprocate or they are too comfortable in their existing social circles.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Very normal! It is difficult to start a relationship when you work 10 to 12 plus sometimes a day. Living in NY this is just standard work hours.
    Maybe on the weekend you can get involved in activities, either at the "work out center", Golf training, even Church. (Even God would accept the activity of getting together) Good luck!

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      The dude who tells the OP to go get brainwashed at church and picking girls at golf gets thumbs up and the guy who actually gives good advice gets thumbs down and deleted.

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  • omphemetse
    10 years ago

    It already spoken in the Bible God have His own time be patient He will give u the right one at the right time

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  • pompousdoor1357
    10 years ago

    pursue what makes you happiest in life, and people will naturally gravitate towards your passionate energy

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  • forever_anon
    10 years ago

    Yes, it's normal. I'm going through the same thing. Most people in my city seem to already have a best friend or group of friends, and aren't interested in connecting with someone new. So I've tried to content myself with solo activities, like reading. Maybe you could try meetup.com or your local library to find groups that share your interests. Sometimes it's easier to make friends when you have a shared activity.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    dust that shit off and do what u please

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I guess you are going to have to make a choice. 10+ hour days and lots of money or a lighter work schedule and a honey.
    If your whole life is about making money, then what do you even need a gf/family for? I've worked for some very, very wealthy men and I can tell you that for most, their quest for money cost them their relationships, over and over again.
    Personally, I've always thought that the quality of my life was much more important than amassing a fortune.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    I hope you find someone through other means

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