Is it normal that i'm still in love with a guy after all these years?

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I'am a 30 years old woman and I met a man online 53 years old never married in a dating site, we are both single. I fall in love and never met him personally. I was very happy and contented. He told me he loves me but he allows me to date with another men and have sex with them because we are far from each other. I never agreed to that terms. After a year of long distance relationship we broke up and I do admit I have fault but for me the reason was just small things which maybe too much for him. Small things which includes asking question on the phone such as "where are you?" It irritates him. I tried to beg for another chance but he didn't gave me. He was asking if we could be friends I told yes but honestly I was so hurt that I didn't make the first move for us to talk again. He has my email add and home address if he really loves me then we will be together again. Then after 3 months I found out that she have girlfriend already. I move on and tried to date other men. I control my heart over my head but my heart still longs for him.I tried to love somebody else and be happy but still my heart is screaming for him.I was telling to myself that it was not God's plan for us to be together. Now I've seen that he is getting married honestly I'm happy for him and envy the girl for founding such wonderful man. How I wish it was me. Is it normal that I still love him after all these years? That I cannot give all of my love to other man because I still love him? Am I crazy? When will my love end? I don't want to live like this and will be living a life full of regrets. I want to be happy as well. Please I do need advice and help.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    As you two had never spent any time together IRL, I believe you are more in love with the idea of who you thought this guy was, rather than the actual person.
    It's the same now; your memories are of this perfect person, who most likely never existed.
    No real man could possibly live up to this imaginary ideal man, so you may have a very difficult time dating now. You must take this guy off his pedestal and accept that a real friend is a lot more enjoyable than an imaginary one.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thank you thegypsysailor for the comment and advice. I just wish ot would happen soon. I've been praying to God that my true love will come soon.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I would suggest moving on from this guy. I have had a long distance friendship/weird relationship with this one guy for four years now, and even I know that I liberally fill in the blanks with goodness that doesn't exist, like trying to craft some prince charming where he doesn't exist.

    that guy has a girlfriend and is getting married, and like what gypsy said, take that guy off his pedestal and find the right guy for you, in real life. You didn't miss out on the perfect man. You only think you are, when in reality, you do not truly know who he is, only what he wanted you to see.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Hi Anthian! I guess you are correct with what you have said. I just wish to meet someone as good as him.

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  • Vivien5
    10 years ago

    The best way to forget someone is to keep your mind busy and not allow yourself to think about him. I am also in a long distance relationship and I know how it feels to wish him every second of your life, to know how he feels and what's he doing at the moment. But you must not forget that he moved on already and you should do the same thing. If it helps in some way, you could think about him in bad ways so that you see how imperfect is he. You are a strong woman and you matter more than him. He is not the center of the Universe and he shouldn't control your life. So keep your head up and let your heart open to new possibilities.:) Best wishes for you!

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