Is it normal that i'm still friends with people i don't like?

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I'm 21 years old and I'm very picky about what I want in a group of friends. So i hang around with a bunch of guys who are clearly introverts; they don't like to leave their house much, except to go to the gym but for me thats starting to get really boring just working out with them 3 or 4 times a week. I want to do more exciting things with them like party, drink, go to a bar or ask them to come to a concert with me. I go to many concerts, mostly with my siblings or cousins but my friends don't even have the same taste in music as me. They also complain about not having any money to do things. That's because they are all lazy asses who don't leave their house and refuse to apply anywhere for a job. Most of the time they don't even have money for bus fare so they beg their parents for money.

Lastly, I've figured I barely have anything in common with this group of people except for being in the same major and we like going to the gym. Is it normal that I would still want to be friends these people I don't enjoy very much? They are introverts, but my big problem is that I can't just go find friends who are extroverts/outgoing because I for some reason have a small tolerance for those type of people: they are often sleazy, cocky, judgmental and very egotistical where I live and go to school.

I really hope anyone here can relate to me.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    Not everyone likes to go to bars, clubs, and concerts. Never bash people who have different interests than you. You might end up needing them later on.

    You're still very young. Friendships develop through common interests at school, work, and events. I was a loner throughout high school. I started making "friends" in college and at work. I have a few close friends now and dozens of respectable acquaintances.

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  • judgejury&executioner
    9 years ago

    Your problem is that you don't think that you have other options when it comes to having friends and going out.
    Get a fuckin backbone, and jog them on as you are just devaluing yourself. Also what sort of role model would you be. Your children would get trampled all over and be bullied at school, work and for the rest of their abismal lives... Unless you man up. If you dont have any other fuckin friends then why have any at all..

    Sorry for being so brutal but if you have the intelligence to understand what i'm saying then you'll get it..!!

    Be yourself and make yourself heard wherever you go..

    Good luck

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago

    Join some clubs or something. You say that most extroverts where you live are "often sleazy, cocky, judgmental and very egotistical." Realize that you are judging your introverted 'friends.' Simply because someone makes a judgement about something doesn't mean they are bad people. I'd say try and get to know these extroverts that you seem to write off for having character traits similar to you.

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  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    thats what we in america call "being two faced" a.k.a Fake

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    I think you should find some friends that are more like you. Just try to find people that like the same things, and arent extroverts or introverts. Try to find a happy medium.

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