Is it normal that i'm still devastated over my grandfathers death?

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When I was 7 my grandfather died. Him and my grandmother looked after me all the time when I was growing up. He died whilst him and my grandmother were on their first weekend away since I was born, I begged them not to go and prayed the night before he died that they'd come home safe. He died of a heart attack. I was offered to see his body but I didn't want to go, I don't know why I declined but I don't regret it.
More than 10 years later I don't feel like I have gotten any closure. I miss him every day and get upset most days that he's not here. Because I went with him and my grandma to where they worked Ive known a lot of people from there and at events such as birthdays and funerals they often come up to me and tell me stories of what a wonderful man he was and I always excuse myself and go and cry in private. I miss him so much and I feel cheated in that he hasn't been around to see me grow up and I never got to tell him how much he meant to me. My grandma is still my whole world but he was too and I'd give anything to switch places with him because I know she misses him and we only really have each other now.. Will I feel like this for the rest of my life?

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  • college
    9 years ago

    The death of someone (or even a pet) is something you never "get over." That pain will remain with you for the rest of your life, it only rears its ugly head less often as time passes. I lost my sibling last year and when I think about him long enough I realize that the severity of the pain of losing him is no less than it was (I can still cry for hours, just like the day I lost him), I just don't feel it as often (as in every day) anymore. So will you have this pain for the rest of your life? Unfortunately the answer is yes, you will. However, the waves of pain should come less often.

    If it's really disrupting your life I encourage you to google "complex grief" and see if the information you find relates to you.

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