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I'm in a relationship where my bf will spank me if I misbehave. I've never been spanked before, and I'm getting my first spanking in a few weeks. He's not spanking me because I like it, but as a punishment. I don't really want to be spanked, but do feel like I need it.
Ok. Just make sure he stops when he knows you really mean stop.
and ... have fun. =)
I too am going to be receiving my first spanking in about three days time I am in some ways anxious as I do not know what to expect , in some ways I know if I was a child and have done the things I have done in past few months my parents may have given a spanking or spankings to correct my behaviour but I am an adult and do not see how this will work but a friend has told me I have had it coming and I need to be thought a lesson before I get out of control a d end up in trouble . He said he will teach me this lesson by way of a spanking and he will make sure I see the error of my ways . I have contemplated not meeting up with him or friends but I know he will come to my house in anyway as he is one of nh closets friends and I tell him everything I find it hard to lie to him and he has said it is out of concern for me he is going to do this he has heard stories about stiff I have done and seen on FB some of the behaviour traits I have picked up and if I think about it I would agree my behaviour has been crazy the past few months . So I am dreading facing him on many ways and I think in some ways I know I have disappointed him and that causes me to be upset . Dreading the meeting but it is not avoidable any advice anyone ???
I think in some relationship it is a good thing. I think it can help some people who need that kind of discipline.
If you're both adults, I don't see anything wrong with this as long as it doesn't evolve into something verbally or physically abusive.
Agree to take 20 more when you really want him to stop, it adds that no control thing to it.
Spanking in a relationship isn't wrong... whether it's sex play or punishment - but ONLY if both parties are consenting.
If you are not consenting then this is abuse.
I would suggest that the two of you have a serious talk about this before proceeding. You need to vocalize EXACTLY what you both want and what your hard limits are.
Finally you MUST agree on the sanctity of the "safe word". If either person says the safe word (or knocks, if gags are being used), then the sex play or spanking MUST STOP.
If this cannot be agreed upon then you need to remove yourself from the relationship. If you cannot trust your partner to stop when you want the play (or punishment) stopped then you will not be safe with that person.
This kind of play should be based in love and trust and never used as abuse.