Is it normal that i'm so inexperienced?

I am 18 years old. I have never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, and have never been kissed. I'm not happy about it and it's not what I wanted to happen in life, but this is where I am. So, I'm an 18 year old girl who has never even kissed anyone. It makes me feel horrible about myself to know that no one has had any interest in me. It's very embarrassing to say, so when my friends are discussing their love lives, I do not chime in. I don't think they have any idea. I've always been told by my friends, since all I've ever had was friends, that I'm an attractive person. I have lost all self confidence and do not agree, but that's what they have said. So, is it normal to be my age and be this inexperienced? Am I completely alone on this?

Thanks for your answers.

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Based on 66 votes (62 yes)
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Comments ( 15 )
  • I'm sure you are attractive and some guy did like you, he was probably just too shy to make a move. Trust me you're not alone and someone is out there for you. I'm not going to say be patient, but I will say that maybe you should try making the first move. If you see a guy, then ask him out. Guys like it when a girl show's interest and makes the move.

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  • JuliusE

    Let me tell you something:
    My wife (21 now) was 19 years old and had never slept, dated, or even kissed a guy before we met. And just as I suspect you are like you, she is a very attractive girl (not fat, beautiful, etc). I found the fact that she had been with no other guy in any way VERY attractive, and I have been with quite a few women. There is something really special about that, especially when the majority of girls have whored themselves out.

    In any case, you shouldn't feel bad at all. Ask almost ANY older woman and they will tell you that you will never regret not messing around with a guy. You will find the right guy, just have patience. When I met my wife she was starting to think there was something wrong with her too but thankfully it all worked out. What I'm trying to say is have patience, you never know when the right guy will appear in your life.

    As a general rule from my experience, relationships don't usually happen when you are looking for them, they usually happen when you least expect them. So don't worry about it and live your life. It will happen for you when it's meant to. And don't forget you have a huge advantage over other girls! Not many can offer what you can!

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  • Pisslan616

    I am 19 and a guy but apart from that I am pretty much the same. I feel like I'm missing out when my friends start talking about their love lives. And sometimes it makes me feel bad that I haven't met someone who likes me in that way.

    I don't feel embarrassed about it really. I make no secret of the fact I haven't so much as kissed a girl Before but I generally Do keep quiet about it because friends have an annoying habit of trying to set you up on dates.

    Long story short you are not alone.

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  • DropThatGem

    You're definitely not alone-- everyone has their own pace. Don't be so hard on yourself! Also, a lot of people end up regretting pushing themselves into experiences before they were ready, you shouldn't necessarily rush into something just to get it over with.

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  • regisphilbin

    This question or something very similar gets asked literally every day on here. And the answer is always the same - yes it's normal and don't rush into anything because you feel like you "should", peer pressure, etc. Do what feels right and always listen to your heart.

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  • robbieforgotpw

    I just power sharted

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  • doxies4life

    I'm the same way I've never dated a girl or even kissed one. The best thing I can say is wait you'd be suprised by what can happen when you wait.

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  • knifeparty33

    I know EXACTLY how you feel.

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  • scout69

    You are doing just fine. You still have to survive your twenties.

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  • This is the poster *
    I'm not shy in any way and I talk to many people, males and females alike. It's not that I don't hint or am not direct in saying what I think about them, they just don't tend to either a. care b. feel the same way.
    I'm astounded that at this point in life with me not being shy with it, no one has suggested liking towards me.
    I'm sure there are other posts like this, yes, but sometimes it's nice to know the answers are coming to you. And it was moderated, so they could have denied it.

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  • equanimity

    Yes, you are normal. And you'd know that if you did a search before posting this question. There are hundreds of questions EXACTLY the same as yours on this site.

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  • koolkeepn

    agree, the exact feeling can be mutual. It's making that"first move"...same comparing answer...water is nice to look as but feeling wetness needs to be experienced and words is just that...words

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  • poojunction-r-us

    OMG you turdFACE!. your 18!!!!! god FREAK!!!! YOU HAVE SOME SERIOUS PROBLEMS AND BTW YOU HVAE NO FRIENDS. xoxo gossip goat.

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    • runnynose

      Whoever you are, you are a serious asshole. I am 20, pretty, and never had a bf. Just shut the hell up and go ruin some one else's life.

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      • poojunction-r-us

        wow calm down runnynose.

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