Is it normal that i'm so different and feel alienated from people?

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I'm 21 and I feel completely isolated and cut off from everybody. I have a few friends, but all of the good ones I have live too far away. The ones I do have here, only seem to want to see me when it's convenient for them and although they will help me out financially or with an odd problem, they don't care that I feel so alone.

Trouble is, I can't relate to people. I don't like partying, I don't mind 'gatherings' but I live in the middle of nowhere and cannot drive so I'm stuck for even that - and I don't think the same as anyone else. I often wonder if the extent to which I feel this loneliness is normal? I cry all the time, I have no energy left to do anything and I've lost interest in everything. The only things that gives me remotely any joy are music and films, and I'm not into the 'mainstream stuff.' Harmony Korine and Larry Clark - that's the kind of stuff I like. But no-one else gets me. Am I unique in this sheer alienation I feel from not only my friends, but the whole of society? I don't feel I really have much to live for.

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  • milabu
    12 years ago

    First, learn to drive. Go around the place and meet new people. Virtually everyone thinks they are different. There are so many people on this Earth and even in your city. Trust me... a friend of mine goes dumpster diving, dies his hair like a rainbow, sews all the time, doesn't watch any tv at all, and he is the coolest guy and he has found his niche. If he can, you can too!

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  • yourfuckinghero
    12 years ago

    It seems that you have depth, but no-one to share it with. You're depressed because you don't have any really intimate relationships. Everyone needs to find their tribe and their place in the friend group. It sounds like you don't have close relatable friends where you are. Are you tied to your location? Do you think your physical isolation is beneficial for your psyche? Perhaps you should think seriously about a change of location.

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    DUDE!
    You have everything to live for because you are different, even if you feel sad or lonely or people don't really care that's what's lapidating you. making you from a rare unique specimen into a beautiful gem. keep cultivating yourself and don't worry even if you are different that's what makes you, you. explore the world around you and stop crying you have a different way of being and that is what will make you succeed. Geniuses all over the world are always different that's what makes them geniuses! Just don't worry and be happy man :D

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  • FluffySheep
    12 years ago

    I know what the feeling is but the thing is, your put into the world for a reason, no matter how minor it is! The fact that your unique and doesn't think like the normal person is a plus! You need to celebrate your weirdness not let it drag you down.
    Stop crying cause crying releases hormones that makes you feel even more depressed.
    If you're not doing anything everyday means your body is saying "Oh you don't do much anyways so I won't give you as much energy"
    The more you get up and do something the more energy you will have, cause then you'd feel less useless if you do something productive.

    Go jogging in the morning and give your body fresh air and exercise.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    well if you are so down then what is there to lose by trying to go out and getting a girlfriend or a good friend to cheer you up?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    No offence but I have known alot of people like you so you can rule out that whole "I am unique" attitdue you have going through your head.

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  • Heterarch
    12 years ago

    I remember feeling this way for two years. I met new people and found my place among them. I was accepted there and that eventually lead to a few really good friends and a wonderful woman. When my brother moved out a 5 years ago I was the last one at home and had no place among the other people I had class with, save a few. I've ventured out and tried to do a lot more. I usually try to hang with people when I can. I don't party and don't even want to be mainstream. I love outdated things. I still love movies and music. It gets better 'mano trust me. Maybe try venturing out or callin up your friend to try and do something. I eventually found a word to describe myself to an extent, Heterarch, because I am different.

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