Is it normal that i'm scared to move during sex?

Here is a secret: confidence is sexy!

I once had this great relationship with a girl at work. She was talkative, energetic, wise cracker...really cute. We ended up in bed where she simply laid there barely moving. False advertisement! The fact that you are in bed with a guy gives you license to move. He wants you to move! If you are young and with an experienced lover, take advantage of the education; be a willing participant and learn a few new tricks.

Intense loving does not equate to pain. But there is a certain element to great sex that could involve just a touch of it. A great lover will try various positions to insure he is reaching all the right places. Movement is implied; participation is a must. But if this guy is simply acting as a contortionist then perhaps he is a newbie himself.

A great lover will consider your needs first. Seeking positions that get you going (experimenting) is part of a great lover's opening gambit. Letting him lead may be in order as you learn what you like. But give him feedback! Don't just lay there. Being sexually astute is an interactive achievement.

Don't worry about what you look like to you, he's the one looking. Loosen up.

from a female to another female: You gotta move around girl to enjoy it!...you're not having sex just for him, it's for the both of you to enjoy together. If you're uncomfortable with your body turn the lights off.

Listen I am a duy me and my wife just go at it in all postions she thrashes around moves back her ass up on me and everything and i have never one got hurt so go crazy he will be fine him and his junk the penis and take alot and it feels great

Yeah it's normal I have felt this way with some guys... Not with others it depends on the guy. I have been having sex for 7 years and let me tell you if the guy I just broke up with was the only guy I had ever had sex with I would have thought that I wasn't ready either. He would push me to do things that I wasn't comfortable with. If I didn't do something he wanted fast enough or exactly what he wanted he would get mad at me and yell at me, I was uncomfortable with new positions cause he was so demanding and I couldn't make one wrong move. Anyway I don't know how old you are but if you are 14 or over my guess is that you are ready this guy just may not be the best at sex. You should be comfortable. It is important that he makes you feel as comfortable as possible.

then dont look at yourself when youre naked! i have/had the same problem so i just look at him instead. lol im always afraid im going to hurt him, but i havent yet (not that i know of) and if you do, just pretend you meantto do that!

I know this will sound easier than done, but you need to got over it. This may sound brutal, but you will end up scaring your boyfriend away.If he likes what he sees then you should be happy. You are not going to hurt him by moving and getting involved in your sex life, but it sounds like you are hurting him now. If you are that insecure, go work out, do something about it. You not only should move and let him see you naked but you should get more involved in your own sex life, take some initiative, have some fun and he will too, if not plan on losing him soon.

Sorry to be so graphic but I thought you moved naturally during sex due to thrusting. I know I always do. xxx

If you don't feel ready don't have sex, take some advice from myself: if you're unsure about things and you're scared to move keep kissing for a while during sex and you'll be a lot more relaxed, also maybe try being on top, it requires you to move and according to my girlfriend she prefers being on top as its more relaxing knowing she has control over things, just take it easy OP, best of luck

Oh no it might brake lol

WTF no that's like fucking a corpse or they say dead lay dudes talk about how they hate those type of women don't be one of those :)

sack of potatoes. but seriously try a lil harder. its not just him shagging you its you shagging him so do it! let me guess.... missionary?

People are their own worst critic, to you maybe a bit of a belly is horrible but to him it could be really cute! I was the same during my first while of sex but after a while you'll get more confident and loosen up with it, I certainly have now! If he tells you he loves seeing you naked and finds you sexy, than he's telling the truth, why would he say it if it would lead to him seeing you naked and on him if he didn't find you sexy? What good would it do him hey!! Relax girl!

hey if the guy thinks you're sexy when naked then u should too!!

It must not feel very good if urnot moving just do what feels good for u but dont let it get borinh for him

Just be confident in yourself he obivously loves you and the way you look and doesn't think your fat so don't worry about it. :) and if you hurt him he'll tell you so you hav nothing to worry about

I know how you feel. My guy is all about the positions, and my bodys weird and some positions hurt. I start to lose interest in sex and feel inadequite when I can't do a certain poition he likes. Because I have trouble meeting his expectation I start to feel ugly. You may just have to talk to him and get him to help you feel more sexually secure. I could be wrong, but he sounds new at this. Or he hasn't been told yet, but the emotional side of sex is a very important part of a females sex life