Is it normal that i'm scared to have sex?

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I'm afraid that I'm going to harm my girlfriend.. The last thing i like doing .. Is intentionally hurting her.. That's basically what's going to be going on when that point comes. She's usually already in enough pain as is with these roaming shocks (dizzy, nausea, and headaches). Yes, she's healthy.. but not counting the fact that her parents both smoke. The house is quite aired out, but you can still smell it. Unfortunately I had the power to see such videos.. and when i look at the woman's face.. I think about her and I'm like "damn man ....". Cause then i feel utterly responsible and I'd feel really bad.

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  • fissionmailed
    11 years ago

    So just don't have sex.

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      You make it sound soo easy.

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      • fissionmailed
        11 years ago

        You make it sound tough when it's not.

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      • Hollolly
        11 years ago

        Haha yep

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  • elenaki
    11 years ago

    In a strange way that makes you the perfect person for her to lose her virginity with. It's obvious you care for her. And trust me, even if she might not enjoy the first time (and I say might because I know girls who didn't feel any pain when they lost their virginities), she'll be glad she did it with someone who cared for her... enough to seek help online. That's pretty admirable :)

    Good luck :)

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      Thank you! :-)

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  • johnathan
    11 years ago

    totally normal and good that your careful before having sex with anyone

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  • truercheese
    11 years ago

    If she's a virgin, it might hurt her simply because that's part of what goes with losing virginity for a girl. But if you care about her, you shouldn't worry about hurting her emotionally because you don't plan on dumping her right?
    But anyways if what you are afraid of is her being in pain with losing her virginity, don't worry about it. She's gonna lose it to someone. You'd probably want it to be you. It would make sense if you care about her.

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      Well.. I never really understood the importance of being a virgin other than the fact that sex is new.

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      • truercheese
        11 years ago

        For girls, it is a bigger deal when losing your virginity than with guys.
        Girls tend to get more emotionally attached to the guy she lost her virginity to while guys don't always have that attachment.
        It has to do with hormones released while this happens and they are different for guys and girls.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    Take her to your house and fuck her, trust me if you know how to use your cock then she will enjoy it.

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      Well.. Any tips? I'm a virgin as well.

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  • mixwell
    11 years ago

    Just do it, is she a virgin ? I just recently had sex with my neighbor who was a 21 year old virgin and while it hurt her, the more we do it te easier it's becoming for her. You just have to get the first few times outta the way and she'll start enjoying it more. Now if shes not a virgin then I doubt you'd be hurting her physically with sex.

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      She is.. Thank you. I feel much better knowing that.

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  • dazjman
    11 years ago

    WAAAAH I am extremely jealous! T-T

    Do it gently and sweetly and make sure she's okay. Let her know she can tell you to stop at any time.

    WAAAH

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      What do we (or I) have to make you jealous..? O.O

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      • dazjman
        11 years ago

        You care so much about her health and sound like you really love her! T-T I have a feeling you'll know how to treat her right...
        And I'm jealous because I'm alone and sad lol leave me be. I've never had a girlfriend.

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        • NorthC
          11 years ago

          Find someone that mutually interests you and develop
          a relationship. :)

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          • dazjman
            11 years ago

            Lol noone but a crazy scientist would be interested in me... And even then, only to satisfy their curiosity in my weirdness.

            Mais merci pour ton kind words. Perhaps it will happen :)

            And seriously, I wish you both all the happiness :')

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            • NorthC
              11 years ago

              Ahhh, the language of the French. :D Good times.

              Best of luck to you, bud.

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  • ambergirl123
    11 years ago

    Ur not gonna hurt her don't worry take it slow ...sex is healthy in a relationship though

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      and .. Too much sex is bad?

      I'm sure there's a balance.

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  • LadySimplicia
    11 years ago

    Me too. The very thought of exposing my body to be used fir another's pleasure makes me twitch. I don't wish to be viewed or touched in this lifetime. I'm probably asexual.

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      Or.. Just extremely defensive.

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      • LadySimplicia
        11 years ago

        I can't help that. It's part of social phobia I guess. I also am a selective mute. I do have a boyfriend, however, but who wants to turn something sweet into something nasty and vulgar?

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        • NorthC
          11 years ago

          You'd be surprised what people consider "sweet" '-'..

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          • LadySimplicia
            11 years ago

            Well that's their definition. Love -the kind you feel emotionally- is sweeter to me.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Dude, you're your own worst enemy.

    So just fuck her softly.

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      Daaamn.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    Sex is said to relieve stress and is good for your heart. Moreover sex gives pleasure and a feeling of well-being. Don't you want to make her happy?

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    What's sex got to do with this? If she's that unhealthy - move on.

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    • NorthC
      11 years ago

      That's not necessarily the case. I'm not going to just "skip town" on her when you didn't take to count that theirs emotional feelings there too. :P

      Remember, I'm not you.

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      • curiouskate101
        11 years ago

        omg that is so cute. you are a good man im proud of you and i dont even know you! are you sure shes healthy because thats not normal for a healthy girl. tell her your concered about her. and about the sex if your not ready or your scared theres nothing wrong with waiting. make sure your girlfriend is completely confrontable with it first then there shouldnt be a problem with it

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        • NorthC
          11 years ago

          Well, she doesn't get it often.. It just happens time to time. Also, thank you. I think i have told her, but it usually came out in a way i didn't expect. Today, i asked her was there anything i could work on. She replied "No, you're perfect", in my mind.. I know there's something. So i lowered my voice (other people were around and i didn't want them to know; privacy) and asked her "What about the touching?" (I wanted to slow that down in the first place) She said "Yes, that can let up a bit". She's told me .. Because of me, she's been able to be much more comfortable with herself.. I don't know how.. But she apparently has. I had replied "I was thinking the same thing. I just didn't want to rush things and make it uncomfortable to you". Oddly, i like touching her. She's very soft and mushy. ^^

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          • curiouskate101
            11 years ago

            haha awh i wish the best for you and your girlfriend. you sound like a wonderfuly boyfriend and shes very lucky :)

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            • NorthC
              11 years ago

              Sooo weird. O.o

              All this odd support. To add on to individuals who agree with you. Other people do the same and i don't understand it.

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      • Mando
        11 years ago

        Well its the case you made. ?

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        • NorthC
          11 years ago

          You still took it in account that you're me in my situation.

          It's like a tongue twister. Both of us ends up confused in the end.

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    • dazjman
      11 years ago

      (8)What's love got to do, got to do with it (8)

      Uh... I mean sex.

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