Is it normal that i'm scared of relationships and flirting?

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Never had a girlfriend, never being remotely physical and never really flirted with a girl.
I want intimacy like any senior teenager but I can't seem to take it to the next level. It's for a lot of reasons, mainly I don't want to have to endure the break up, where I hurt this girls feelings because I feel the relationship has run it's course.

I feel so sleazy when I flirt or even think about pursing a girl sexually. It's like I see teen girls as some emotionally fragile creature.

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Based on 30 votes (23 yes)
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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    Because they are. Don't beat up on yourself for feeling that way. I mean personally the thought of pursuing a girl for the basis of just sex just feels wrong, but it's not like you can't flirt to show you are interested in them; that you are romantically inclined.

    I get tell you how to get past, I had a perfect opportunity the other day to kiss a girl and I didn't take it. I've been thinking about making a post like this myself. I guess my advice is, if she's interested it's on you to take the plunge, and if it doesn't work out no sweat. I think once you break the ice with one girl (all I mean is holding hands or kissing) it might be more natural if you have to do it another time.

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  • YouKnowWho
    10 years ago

    Don't go after girls for sex. Just don't. Try to be friendly and not flirty at first, and if the girl isn't an idiot she won't friendzone you (unless she's not interested, but then look, you've got a new friend).

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Your over thinking it dude, try talking to girls with out having it in your head that you want to bone them.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    10 years ago

    Hey we are not that fragile, we ain't gonna break...

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  • loao233
    10 years ago

    If you've had a traumatic childhood/mental disorder than no it's not normal.If your just shy or don't know what to say or how to act than it's still not normal. You don't have to be a jerk but don't be the nice guy because no matter what girls say they all want the bad boy. Look up "mystery pickup artist" and "david deangelo double your dating" They are the real deal. It'll save you years of frustration. You can find it online for free. It sounds cheesy but it worked for me.Hey it's your life

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