Is it normal that i'm scared of getting dumped

it is normal. i'm the same way. i was hurt once and only once by a girl who used me for my lips, if you can believe that. infatuated with my lips, she had to kiss them, and after she had enough she dumped me. she was my first girlfriend. i was 24, she was 23. i'm 39 now. haven't dated since. she said she wasn't my girlfriend the whole six weeks we dated. yikes! anyway i fear getting my heart broken again. i demand perfection to a degree too. i just want a faithful girl. some who will cherish my heart and lives to make me happy. which would be my intentions toward her. i believe that getting to know someone well will help a person to make the decision whether to make a commitment. communication is the key. besides looks, the condition of the heart and mind is VERY important. get to know the person well, ask questions, be honest with your statements in regard to want you need in a relationship. try to see if you're being used or not. explore the potential boyfriend's mind and heart to see if he's honest in his feelings toward you. men are pigs nowadays and i don't have much to do with them or any respect for them. sex is all they think about. i hate that. dirty f'ers. they'll say or do anything to get in a girl's pants. so be careful. you'll know when you've found the right guy when all he wants to do is concern himself with what's best for you. a selfless guy. if he doesn't hit on you sexually but wants to be around you all the time and misses you when you're apart, he's probably the one.

This is why I like dating men more than women. They don't let their insecurities bleed I to every part of the relationship, ruining it. They don't have ridiculous standards either. More laid back

im afread that my fiance might call off the wedding.. but i love him to much to end it and if he breaks it off i will b truly broken in everyway possible... i wud b alone for the rest of my life... hes the one though he says he loves me and he sends me letters im just scared he will wake up and not want me anymore... guess its cuz my self esteem is so low!... i hope u get over the fear like im trying to!

Well... depends if you like him or not.

I guess there are risks in life & love - no risk taken no gains. And it is normal to feel worried that if I take a risk I might get hurt. But it does come with the territory.

On the other hand, we build trust in ourselves by taking smaller risks & working up. So maybe instead of "dumping" it is better to say that you are interested only in dating, not going steady. That way the other person isn't hurt by you.

It's normal to be afraid. Kinda like my fear of getting left out (or ditched).
Yet. I wonder how you can dump a guy & not feel anything.
This isn't a game that has to be beaten, it is your future.
But howa'bout having a serious comversation on thoughts about eachother. Like that you know what he thinks of you & if he'll have the intention of breaking up with you or not.
That's just an idea anyway.
Hope I helped..?
Good luck.

Well. It's a fear. And as soon as you get 'the' guy, you will respect him more because your fear is kind of gone.

But now look at it negatively. What if 'the' guy that you thought was the one decides that he doesn't want you? Your fear becomes true?

You should try your best to get over it and give guys more of a chance. Or better yet, make your own move! Fight the urge to dumb them before they dumb you. It'll be experience. Of course, don't completely ignore your logic...

It's kind of hard to tell you what to do because I have no personal knowledge of who you are. Best I can probably do is say: "Life is about creating yourself."

Answer: Commonly seen/normal.