Is it normal that i'm really insecure about my boyfriend?

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I've been with this guy for 4 years and I can tell he loves me. But I'm really insecure about other women. I can't stand him looking at some other girl's photo or something like watching a movie with something inappropriate. I wasn't always like this, but I feel it really strongly now. It makes my everyday life so tough because I'm constantly looking out for inappropriate posters and shit when I'm with him so that I can tell him not to look in that direction. Help please.

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  • stopandthink
    9 years ago

    It's normal to feel jealous, but I wonder if you're taking it slightly too far. Just tell him you're uncomfortable with that, if he leaves you over it then be happy and move on. Don't be in a relationship you're not comfortable in, good luck.

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  • RainbowDischarge
    9 years ago

    Oh lord. I can relate all too well but also on a x10 level. It is not healthy at all for us to be like this. To someone who has never felt this way, we look insane and super unstable. It occupies the mind everyday and makes me sick sometimes. I dont know why I became this way, havent pin pointed the reason for the intense insecurity with him. Sorry I couldnt give you any advice because I still do this..except not telling him to avert his eyes thing. Just saying you arent alone on this one.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    You're not crazy even though I'm sure at times you feel that way. Jealousy happens to everyone but there's a point when you have to stop. You can't control someone, the more you try it just pushes that person away.

    You should take a break not breakup but just get out of that mindset. It's not healthy to obsess or stress out over one person to this extent and the longer you're in it, the harder it is to change. Practice some self control, looking at another girls picture doesn't mean he wants her. He's bound to find other girls attractive but he's with you. Trust him.

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