Is it normal that i'm obsessing over my boyfriend?
My boyfriend and i have been together for around 8 months. He is ex army, and he's recently got a job in private security. He goes abroad for a few weeks at a time and he's currently halfway through a month long transit. I miss him like crazy and he calls me once every few days, and tells me how much he loves and misses me.
We've been known to argue about trivial things, but a few months ago we broke up for a few weeks and in that time he was with another woman, one of my friends actually. She has recently been telling people that she's in love with him even though she knows we're back together and stronger than ever. But since all that happened, i have been so determined to keep my boyfriend, especially from this particular girl, that i feel in a way that i am obsessed by it. I have a full time job, i go to the gym 3 times a week, i'm keeping myself occupied but in my freetime all i do is panic about the fact that my boyfriend might leave me when he gets home and go back to this girl. I know that i want him, i'm ready to settle down, start a home with him and maybe get married eventually. I understand that it's quite early days, but i can honestly say that i love him. I don't know if i've ever felt this way about anyone before. I think he might suffer from post traumatic stress disorder after being in the army, and he can be a very angry person, and he also has trust issues. I don't know a great deal about his ex girlfriends. I've met a few of them and they've mostly been normal, nice people and i can't help but feel that his anger and jealousy had something to do with the demise of those previous relationships, although that's only an assumption. The reason i don't know too much about his exes is because i really don't want to know, because it'll only hurt me. I'd rather the past be the past and we can live in the present.
Okay, that's the background and the whole reason i'm posting this is because my friends are telling me that i'm obsessed. I think about him constantly, i don't want to go out when he's here because i want to spend time with him, i will let him get away with murder, so long as he doesn't leave me. He left me for one of my friends, then realised he made a mistake, and i was there waiting for him. This could be something that some people find unforgivable, i just want to be with him, no matter whats happened between us. It's like a constant battle. I'm in a position now where i don't know what to do, it's easy to say that i need to stop worrying about him leaving me, but i feel like i'm going to be spending the rest of my life, or the rest of our relationship, desperately trying to prove why i'm better than this girl, and making sure he doesn't go back to her.