Is it normal that i'm not interested in losing my virginity?

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I'm 18 years old and I'm still a virgin. No, I'm not afraid to have sex, and I'm not that unattractive lol I've dated a few guys before, but I've never really had a boyfriend. I don't feel like I need a relationship right now, I'm totally comfortable with being by myself. I feel like I'm using my time better studying and trying to get into college, than trying to desperatelly get a boyfriend, like my friends do.
Lately I've kind of lost the interest in dating too, because, as I said, I don't want a relationship, and most guys I dated seemed to get too attached. So it's just annoying when I want to be by myself and there's a guy calling me heartless lol
But I'm starting to think I'm a little weird for not wanting to date, and therefore not losing my virginity... but truth is, I'm just comfortable like this, it doesn't feel like I'm missing out. Is it normal?

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Based on 43 votes (39 yes)
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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago

    You're doing what's right for you and that's the right thing to do. Don't listen to the fools. Follow your own rules.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    With your head full of brains
    And your shoes full of feet
    You are too smart to go
    Down a not-so-smart street

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    You're fine. Don't get pressured by what other people say or do. You will get called heartless and all sorts of stuff because most people are incapable of digesting a stance that clashes with their own lifestyle. And so belittling you is the only way they know how to handle it. Losing your virginity is overrated anyway. Some people are glad to get it out of the way, others are glad they waited a bit and their first experience was with someone they really connected with. Get back to dating whenever you want to or feel like it, you're not weird at all.

    However, MisterPapaya makes a good point, there is a very unique and unparalleled sincerity about having your first experience with someone who's just as inexperienced as you. So know your priority and stick to them, but don't get so extremely invested in them that you miss out

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  • lking.jordyn
    8 years ago

    It could be that you're so busy with life that it's not a problem to you. My good friend discovered in himself that he was asexual in the 8th grade

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  • DolphinAngel
    8 years ago

    I myself am a 20 years old male individual and never even had a date nor a relationships with neither a girl nor a guy or any other living being.

    I could bring the arguments that I am not that ugly or whatever but truth is I do not even know if it has anything to do with that.
    Truth is, there have been people showing attraction towards me but the circumstance have never lead to anything at all.

    Also, I cannot say that I prioritize education over getting into a relationship nor am I seeking a relationship or looking forward to losing my virginity.

    Actually, I have no idea.

    To answer your question; yes, it probably is normal!

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  • fratom
    8 years ago

    Always believe in yourself live well laugh alot love much beinning and ending with yourself for now: You be true to yourself and don't be comparing yourself to others you are grouep let them live their lives while you get on lving yours. Value and respect the beautiful person you are: Be in charge of your own destiny: You have plenty time to have a boy friends: Have a few you call friend to who will support you and share with you respecting your feelings: Enjoy your life OK

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  • MisterPapaya
    8 years ago

    Absolutely nothing wrong with focusing on school/career and saving boys for later. We're not going anywhere, lol.

    The one suggestion I would have, however, is don't focus away from dating too hard otherwise you might look back and realize you may have missed out on some fun times.

    Good luck :)

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    What a refreshing viewpoint. Someone who is actually mature enough to realize that if one is in school, that their school work is what they should be concentrating on.
    Goodonyou, girl.

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  • Darkoil
    8 years ago

    College is easy to get into, don't let your life pass you by because you will regret it.

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    • (s)aint
      8 years ago

      I love sex and I have been in some relationships, and prioritized them over school.

      Relationships ends, an education does not.

      She´s wise to focus on her education for now but she should not be dating if she does not want anything serious because I don´t think it´s fair to go on dates with guys without either wanting to pursue it further or have casual sex.

      You date because you have an interest in said person and an interest to maybe become a couple-Not just because it´s what your friends does.

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    • stopandthink
      8 years ago

      So 'life' is sex?
      Grow up.

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      • kelili
        8 years ago

        Sex is life. :D

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