Is it normal that i'm not interested in a relationship at the moment?

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Around November time last year, I asked a girl who I'd been spending a long time with and who I'd had a crush on for ages if she'd like to go out sometime, but she just wanted to be friends. Ever since then, I've just lost interst in getting into any sort of relationship. It's a lot of hassle on my mind worrying about whether I'm doing the right thing or not and what to say and everything like that, when I'm getting friendly with girls or going out with them, and I just don't think I need to worry myself with it all. I've never really had a relationship before either. I'm also in my first year of uni and its a load of work and stress. I'm not sure what to do with myself, so some advice would be nice, thanks :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    My opinion? Just forget about them. To get your dream girl, you have to be an asshole. You'll most likely never get the type of girl you want by being the nice friendly guy. Sad, but true.

    Focus on education, etc.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Normal.

    But I have a hard time staying single. I get dates very easily. So it's like... even if I don't want a relationship, it kind of happens. Don't talk to people.

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  • .Linkin.Park.
    12 years ago

    Completely normal! I broke up with a guy a few months ago for that reason. I just like being on my own, not having to worry about someone else. I also agree with school coming first!

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  • Racks_on_racks
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal. After breaking up with my gf after 3 years, I've find it that I don't want to spend the energy in building up a relationship again. Tending to another persons wants and needs are very draining to me. I just want to take a break and focus on my work, school, physical, and mental health. If a girl comes along than so be it, but right now I'm not going to pursue anything.

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    • Saycheese
      12 years ago

      Great answer!

      I'm the same way. I just want to get school done, get a good job, and so on... but if I run into to some guy that might work I might try to see if anything would happen or not. I just like to go on about my own business at the moment though.

      To the OP, I've never been in a relationship either but I just don't feel like trying too much since I've been rejected a few times. I'm not hurt anymore and don't worry though.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    Well given your past experience with your friend I'd say your normal. It is a lot of work to get a girl nowadays and on top of all that you have schoolwork which just adds to the stress. I hope that someday you meet the right girl but in the meantime focusing on school isn't a bad option.

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