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I really like him and have a love for him, but I want to try to make it work even if he's not my type or what I would normally go for. is it normal to not be sexually attracted to someone you're dating?
Omg, what is wrong with people these days. They're so obsessed with just having a bf, that they have a bf they're not even physically attracted to. JEEZUS. Attention all young people - it's ok to be single.
To you and the OP people all get old and fat one day. Its silly to believe that just because someone is not attractive you should not be with them. In the end no one is attractive. We all die with wrinkles, a beer gut, liver spots, and crow feet. Does not mean any of us are less of a person and for someone to leave because they say "Well now you are old and ugly" is really shallow.
Oh, God, just get out of my planet. People are usually so obsessed with having a by that they have a bf they're not even EMOTIONALLY attracted to. Physical attraction should never, ever be a deal breaker in a relationship, in my opinion.
"but I want to try to make it work even if he's not my type or what I would normally go for"
If you had loved him, you'd feel attracted to him.
It sort of disgusts me that people are with someone just to avoid being single ...
this^ Most people date people solely on sexual attraction, because it's real easy being with someone who is easy on the eyes, but most of the time, the emotional attraction isn't fully there, if at all. When you find that perfect person, who has the absolute best personality to go with you, then it will make a 5 look like a 9.
<3! I fell in love with my current boyfriend because of the sexual attraction AND all his other awesome attributes. AND he isnt the "Type i would normally go for" but that is hardly any issue when you love someone 0.o
I had JUST decided to stay single for a while longer, but then he came along xD
I've came across SO many people that really just fears to be alone so they are together with the wrong person and cheats and what not >>
"IIN to not be sexually attracted to someone you're dating?"
No it's not normal, because sexual attraction is usually why you notice someone that you want to date in the first place.
The logical answer points towards you having some kind of mental deficit.
There's lots of things wrong here. What's wrong with being single? Has it really become such a taboo that people have become so desperate to avoid it that they are dating people they don't love? If you truly don't love him, don't be with him anymore. He doesn't deserve to be strung along.
I dunno, I honestly think physical attraction isn't the only thing you need to make a relationship work. Plus, you can start to find a man attractive even after you've started dating. First you start out thinking.. meh, he's so nice but i'm not really attracted to him. Then you find out he plays the piano!!! Or something along those lines. Love is very adaptable,it is missing that passion right from the get go, but in my opinion, being attracted right off the bat isn't a necessity.
If you aren't sexually attracted to him then what's the point? Do you plan on going through your entire life never being able to have sex/kiss with someone you're not sexually attracted to? You're just going to hurt his feelings in the long run, meanwhile making you feel bad about it. Leave him before it's too late.
Well, there are many questions you need to settle with yourself before deciding what to do. How long have you been together? Do you feel like totally unattracted to him that you can't stand it? Is there like progress with this attraction thing or not, meaning do you feel there is a bit of progress as u get to know him or nothing at all?
If you feel there is no way around it then you gotta leave him. He deserves a girl that loves him as he loves her and you deserve to be in a relationship that makes you 100% happy :)
If no physical attraction is there or comes at all, then maybe it's not quite right. But it's so important to be attracted to someone in tons of other ways for a r'ship to work. I think a lot of people actually put too much on physical attraction and kind of expect their 'perfect match' to be EVERYTHING they want them to be. E.g. kind, considerate, funny etc. AND stunningly good looking! Probably not gonna happen. But when you know it's right, you know. And only you honestly know if it's right or not. I do think a lot of people go around thinking they're in love, when they're actually just 'in lust' - and they act 'coupley' and fool themselves. But really, the physical aspect of their relationship is like 80-90% of it. It's an important part, yes, but it shouldn't be what makes the r'ship, in my opinion. Those r'ships are quite shallow and not very meaningful long term. Also, people can become more physically attracted to someone as they become closer to them and more mentally and emotionally connected. Relationships are funny things!
If your feelings for him are sincere I think you should go for it, physical attraction should be the less important thing in a relationship, what really matters in the emotional bond between the people involved :) And don't let the oversexed retards out there tell you otherwise.
but hang on, don't guys have to be sexually attracted to someone then they start to feel an emotional thing and with girls it is the other way around, though I must ask..how do the not so good looking people find someone no offense but like an obese person who doesn't shower and take care of them selves e.c.t?
I don't really know, but if it is, it shouldn't be. I know a guy who says he sometimes feels sexually attracted to girls, but he would only "chase" a girl he had actual feelings for.