Is it normal that i'm nervous around friends?

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Sometimes i am very nervous when I'm just about to meet a friend, and then when we're gonna do something together I feel very tense all the time. I try to be a good and nice friend to them, but it always feels forced and hard to be that. I'm also frightened that there will be awkward silences between us, or that I would say something that would sound weird or stupid. It doesn't matter with what friend I hang out with, if its a friend i've known for a week or a friend i've know my whole live, doesn't make any difference. I'm really upset about this and it also keeps me from making new friends, cause i'm afraid stuff like this will happen again. And I also don't want to hang out with friends sometimes because i'm afraid to have that tense feeling again. I know that I shouldn't think about it and just relax, but the nervous feeling automatically comes up again when I'm gonna meet a friend.
The only persons I don't have this feeling with are my brother and my mom, and also not when i'm in a big group, cause then there's less preasure put on me. (But I don't like being in groups of people though, I'm always very shy then.)
What can I do about this? Is it normal and do more people have this problem?

I really hope anyone could help me...

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  • unkn0wnperson
    11 years ago

    Sweety, I'm glad you posted this question to ask for help. To be honest I was just like you few years ago. I was very afraid to meet people because I'd think somewhere I'd mess up. What I think now is that it was because of my lack of knowledge and experience. So I thought about it once and I noticed that when I wanna make a friend, I wanna know something and have a background in something to be able to start a conversation. So therefore I started reading and studying different subjects. Now, if you like and are interested in any type of books, start reading more about it until you feel like you can have a conversation about this subject and you're feeling confident. Afer a while you will gain self confidence and start to realize it's not that hard to make friends. And even after that it would be so easy for you to make friends with anyone. Btw, school is a big help too. If you become a good student, everyone will look up to you and they would automatically want to be your friend. Now you wouldn't have to worry about you making a friend, they would just come to you themselves.

    Hope this helps a little bit. Good luck hon! :)

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    This is soo normal, you're just an introvert. Best thing you can do to get over it is to just keep doing what you're doing. Go out even though you're worried about it. I have this habit, if someone wants to hang out 1 on 1 I'll ask if I can invite someone else cause I'm to awekward alone. If you choose to just not go all the time, you'll end up liek my other friend. She'll invite me out to coffee and either cancel, or not show up, cuase one day she's feeling social, but by the time the day to go out to coffee comes alone, she's introverted and will make any excuse not to show up. You don't want to be her. You're fine with what you're doing :) As long as you don't be a total cow, then people will stillw ant to hang out with you

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  • spectroscopi
    11 years ago

    I'm rather like that myself. I fell nervous and stressed around my best friends. I'm more comfortable with strangers most of the time...

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  • somethingBad
    11 years ago

    I have the same problem, but I don't know what to do about it

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