Is it normal that i'm nearing 30 and never had a girlfriend?

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Hi there. So I'm almost 30... turning 30 in december, and never had a girlfriend. I feel like something is really wrong with me. That's me in those pictures... As you can see I'm a chubby fella, always struggled with weight. I also don't hev the best self-esteem in the world, on the contrary actually. I have struggled with anxiety, depression and I was diagnosed OCD, which isn't exactly being a cleaning-freak. I'm getting impatient, and filled with existential dread that I will die alone and unloved. It also doesn't help that I'm deeply, DEEPLY, in love with my best friend who has a boyfriend. And even though we are very close (we have been mistaken for a couple more than once), and I'm her confidant so I know her relationship has been far from roses and rainbows, she still holds on to it. It's less true love, and more stubborness after investing so much in a relationship. So there you go. Is it normal? And will I ever find love for myself (I know you don't have an answer, but it's always good to be reassured by strangers)?

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    Doesn't sound normal but you haven't given us much to work with either.

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    • Altheron
      8 years ago

      What can I add that could help? I did upload a picture of mine to this post, but it isn't showing up. However you can see my face if you access my profile, that's me in the profile avatar.

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      • mysistersshadow
        8 years ago

        Well...

        You haven't told us how or what you've tried or if you've tried. You haven't told us how it went if you did try. You haven't given us any info about your work or if that effects your opportunities such as working weekends or a grave shift. You haven't told us about any activities that you enjoy doing that might have potential meeting others opportunities.

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        • Ian_is_a_butthurt_bitch
          8 years ago

          Answer honestly, would you bone him?

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          • mysistersshadow
            8 years ago

            No not with what I have heard so far but even if I do know a guy its probly about 99% chance I wouldn't but thats all guys nothing against him.

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        • Altheron
          8 years ago

          I live in a country with a lot of unemployment, and I had been unemployed for a while... Fell into a big depression. But not anymore. I have monday to friday, 9 to 6 job, which pays well and in my area, as a scriptwriter. And it was in part thanks to her, she pulled me up and stood by me through my worst. She bvelieved me. She still believes me. I'm still living with my mother, but I found a place to live and I'm moving out. She offered herself to help me move, and anything I need. She's... amazing. But I had the bad luck of meeting her at my worst, and at the time where she began with her current boyfriend. We got closer later. Meanwhile I fell for her. I have tried with a bunch of girls, some of them a big friends of mine, but I was rejected. And they wronged me, because they came back and apologised. I have my share of blame, but it says something that both those girls are big friends of mine as well. And that's also another thing, I have mostly girl friends. I also spent a year in the US for my senior year and also had a big crush for a girl. We are also as close as we could be, and we still talk nowadays. But I was coming home, and it would hurt... I've just have bad luck I guess. I also lost a year and a half to depression... and that set my life back. *Sigh* What a life.

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          • mysistersshadow
            8 years ago

            Hopefully the changes you made will help what country do you live in?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Pass on this girl.
    Figure out what you enjoy doing in real life. No computer shit. Sailing, biking, pottery or sculpture, painting, music, geology, cooking, ANYTHING. Then find a group of like mined individuals who meet to share their experiences, expertise and perhaps arrange activities in the field. Join the group and it will be easy because with these people you will have something in common. Some of these people should be girls. They will also be easy to talk to because of your common interests. I have no doubt that some of them will find you interesting.
    It's a beginning.

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    • wigz
      8 years ago

      Why 'no computer shit'? Plenty of people hook up online. Just because you join sites solely to be cruel to others you can't imagine anything else?

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      • mysistersshadow
        8 years ago

        Thats true I know several ppl that have found some one online and been very happy.

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