Is it normal that i'm lonely at weekends?

I'm a freshman at a small college, and this is almost the end of my first semester now. "I don't have any friends to hang out with"--I know it's a common query in google, but that's how I can express my situation. I know a lot of people, and talk to them when I'm in class or lab, or at the dining hall, or whatever place people need to go. I have two roommates as well, but they both have their own friends. I'm afraid of sitting alone as people think 'this guy is weirdo'. So I try to sit with people who I vaguely know, at least I avoid not to seat alone. But I never felt like I was there, a part of the table or the group. I can't talk much; I mean what more I can talk about after a few common bullshits like how's everything, what's your plan for the upcoming thing, blah, blah, blah... No, it's not like I'm that douche-bag who doesn't listen to what other people say. Neither that I don't ask them questions. It seems to me that people just don't, they just don't like to talk to me. I think I'm such an uninteresting person to talk to.

But, it was not the same back in high school. Yeah, I know I'm a little introvert, but I had really great friends! Pretty much everyday they say that how much they miss me. We had lot of great memories; I forgot a lot of them though. People tell me they had such an interesting thing with me, and I suddenly remember and laugh together. Why I'm saying these stuffs? Because I know I'm not one of those kids. Still it hits me hard when people leave the tables after trying really hard to stay, when I have to desperately look for people to talk to, when no one bothers me telling about the party or the event, when in the Friday evening I feel so down that I have to convince myself whether or not 'is it normal?'

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79% Normal
Based on 29 votes (23 yes)
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  • FlyingKitten

    The people you have to deal with sound like assholes.. My advice would be to find someone you want to be friends with and make an effort, try not to come off as needy or as a show off but show your value as a friend, show that you would make a nice addition to someone elses life its a hard time for you and theres bound to be others in your situation.

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    • FlyingKitten

      I also wanted to add though it may not be normal per say its not necessarily bad to want to spend time alone. Spending time alone can show you who you really and and what is truly important to you while giving you a chance to develop ideas/ skills without outside interference.

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  • handsignals

    Hey! Steven Glansberg is on this site.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pwkA-6iKm50

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