Is it normal that i'm like this?

I had to use such an undescriptive title because I don't know how to describe my behaviour. I'll explain it in a list:

1. I don't understand why people are sensitive about what others think of them.
2. I don't understand why people get angry when I tell them their flaws. I'm just telling them what they should fix.
3. I don't understand why people are so crazy about romance and love.
4. I don't take pleasure in sex and I only masturbate to stop myself from getting an errection in public, not to pleasure myself.
5. I feel very weak emotions. I rarely smile and I don't feel anything in funerals.
6. I like to spend my time alone.
7. I keep most things about me a secret from those who know me.
8. I have very few friends.
9. I barely talk to my familly. Not just now, but in child and teenage years, too.
10. I am a grammar nazi and frown at people getting facts or names wrong.

It's most likely not normal, so if any of you know what's wrong with me, tell me in the comments.

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52% Normal
Based on 33 votes (17 yes)
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  • thegypsysailor

    You sound like a spoiled, selfish, petulant little child.
    It's probably about time you allowed yourself the pleasure of the company of others without being so judgmental.
    But hey, what do I know?

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    • Spoiled? Hardly. If I was spoiled then 9 wouldn't be there. A spoiled person would stay in the company of those that give him things, don't you think? Selfish? Point me to the nearest person who is less annoying than the rest and I will shower him in attention. Petulant? I have nothing against this statement.

      I can't take pleasure in the company of people who talk about the most mundane of things. It's boring. You know, the weather, your spouse that sort of crap I couldn't give less of a damn about. What's the point in talking about the weather? It's not like I haven't seen it. Your spouse? She's your spouse, you worry about her. I may be judgemental, but I'm happy the way I am.

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  • dom180

    1) I think it's normal not to care about social and cultural capital yourself, but I don't think it's normal to have no comprehension of why other people would care it.

    2) I don't think it's normal to not understand that giving someone unsolicited advice about your subjective perception of their flaws would cause them upset.

    3) I think it's relatively normal not to understand love. I think it's something you have to be receptive to to fully comprehend and not everyone is receptive to it.

    4) Asexuality is normal, and that to a certain extent overlaps how you feel. Pretty much any sexual feeling, or lack of one, is normal.

    5) I think this is an issue. Not feeling anything at funerals is a normal thing, but a general lack of emotiveness is a genuine psychological issue. It's a symptom of depression and schizophrenia (not saying you have a psychological disorder, just trying to get across that lack of emotiveness is a serious issue).

    6) Yeah, that's normal. Whether it's shyness or introvertness or whatever, it's normal.

    7) I think it's normal to keep a lot of things inside you. I don't feel comfortable expressing some parts of myself in every social atmosphere, and some parts of myself that I am comfortable expressing I'm unable to articulate. But I think whether or not this is a problem depends on the reasons why you're secretive.

    8) This also depends on the reason. Lots of normal people have few friends because they're content with them, and lots of people with problems have few friends because they're unable to maintain social relationships without pushing people away.

    9) It depends on how you were brought up. Sometimes that behaviour is rational and normal and indicative that there's something wring with your family, not you.

    10) I really don't think this means anything.

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    • 4) When I said I prefer to masturbate, I meant I do get aroused. I have my own fantasies, but I find sex unnecessary and distracting. Why go out and find someone to do it with you if you can do it yourself and get back to your work right away?

      5) There is a chance that I have a psychological disorder. I fit the symptoms for the Schizoid personality disorder, I just wanted to see what the masses think before making a conclusion.

      7) The reason for being secretive would have to be social anxiety. I just can't let people know too much about me out of fear. I was called mysterious and hard to get to know multiple times.

      8) I have few friends, because I feel like most people waste my time with their useless banter. I need serious, important conversation, not the discussion of the football game which I haven't even seen.

      9) I can't say my family is bad, I just don't like to talk to people in general. My parents never beat me or punish me because I didn't cause any trouble. The "perfect" child, yet I don't feel I owe that to them.

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    • DiamondGirl

      Ummm... Asexual is not normal, Sorry. But it just isn't. And this person sounds fucked up! So please stop lying he/she does not sound normal.

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  • DiamondGirl

    Is this suckonthis? The Grammar King?

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  • Evenios

    some of your aspects is normal the others are not so much seems to me you have a condition where you have a hard time forming emotional connections with people this could be a problem as it means making connections can be very hard expecally if you feel no sexual arousal. if i was you i would maybe talk to a phycologist about it if you are worried or at least find someone who might know more about that. That is not entirely normal. I'd look into it.

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  • It's nice you care about showing an erection in public..you care.. thats nice

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  • Shiroyasha

    In general, what you wrote here makes me believe that you are young, inexperienced and arrogant. I have met hundreds like you already, but most change their ways eventually after certain points in their lives. In general, people with these traits are spoiled or with certain social disability. Maybe asperger, who knows.

    1. Not normal: We are social animals and we need others to survive and to fulfill certain emotional needs. Everyone mature and with enough mental sanity wants to be accepted in certain way.
    2. Not normal (but nice): Many people have a hard time accepting criticism. You should try to be constructive and nice when you criticize people.
    3. Not normal: Finding love is most people's dream. Even if you have everything else in the world, you would feel empty without someone to love. But it is normal not to understand love before actually experiencing it.
    4. Not normal: But people are more accepting towards different kinds of sexual mentalities these days.
    5. Kind of normal: Some people are more or less emotional than others, and some awaken certain emotions during certain moments in life.
    6. Normal: But society doesn't want to accept that introversion is a legitimate and healthy way of life.
    7. Not normal: Here is where you reveal your weak spot. You are here trying to sound all cold and antisocial, but if you have the needs to keep secrets it means that you care about what people think. Even if you are a quiet person, you wouldn't keep secrets if you didn't care.
    8. Normal: I think most people nowadays have many acquaintances but not true friends. I think having 2 true friends is enough for many.
    9. Kinda normal: You are not forced to like your family, but if you have no reason to hate them, you should at least try to connect with them.
    10. Normal: I would put this in the same row as 2. The fact that you need to mention this makes me believe that you are quite arrogant. (and sorry for the mistakes I might have made)

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    • Ahem, I'm not sociable, that makes me secretive because I don't let people close. You contradicted yourself trying to contradict me.

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      • Shiroyasha

        It doesn't work like that. Do you think extroverted people have less secrets than others?

        One thing is to be distant and not being talkative in general. Another is actually hiding stuff from other people. My main point here was that if you need to hide stuff from people, you actually care about what they think about you. Your very first point was that you don't understand why people care about what others think of them. Well then, if you feel the need to have secrets, you actually know this quite well already.

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        • Then I take being distant and not being talkative in general. Confusion averted.

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  • Shelbs

    Sounds normal to me!

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    schizoid to a t

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  • RachelleWall

    You don't really seem that strange to me. I've met FAR stranger people.

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  • Kind of normal, especially for people on here. Sure there are a few things on the list a lot of people aren't or don't do, but we are not all the exact same, and we all are different in certain ways, and it's not really a stretch between yours and others'.

    Don't worry, I would say it's nothing to worry about.

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  • driedroses

    1. I get what you're saying. But It's normal for humans to want to be accepted and liked for who they are. Some people are less sensitive about rejection than others, but it shouldn't be that hard for you to understand how someone could be sensitive when others talk shit about them.

    2. You're telling them what they 'should' fix? Who are you? God? Lol. You like to be real with people, okay. I'm being real with you. Not everyone wants your opinion on what's wrong with them. If they ask you, okay, they're asking for it. If not, shut up. It's not really your place to tell others what they 'should' do.

    3. I don't think anyone ever fully understands love until they experience it for themselves, and even then.. So I feel you on that one.

    4. Asexual? Cool. Well, just like how everyone isn't straight or gay, not everyone is sexual. Nothin wrong with that IMO.

    5. So, you're a bit... apathetic? That could be nature or nurture.. personality or environment.. I'm really not sure, but nonetheless, as long as it's not affecting your life I think it's OK.

    6. Introverted. Normal.

    7. Secretive. Normal.

    8. Nooormal.

    Actually, 6 7 & 8 sound like a lot of my friends lol.

    9. IMO completely normal. Others would say different. I don't think family has to be a strong bond, or even any bond.

    10. Well educated people who cannot write a decent essay, despite being taught about grammar / spelling / essay writing for years and years, piss me off. But not everyone is well educated, not everyone completed school, not everyone is naturally good at English, so I try to look past the whole grammar thing. Especially online, because I myself don't use proper grammar most of the time.

    So that's me trying to give my honest opinion / advice.. Lol hope it's okay x You sound normal to be, a bit ~weird~, but whatever. Weird is interesting! Do you. And let others do them. :)

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  • peterr

    Do you suck cocks at all? Have you, in the past ever sucked a cock?

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    • Shelbs

      There's supposed to be a comma after "past".

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      • peterr

        Thank you.

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      • DiamondGirl

        Another "Grammar King/Queen" please, enough with correcting other people's spelling and Grammar not everyone is perfect. That's the reason for this site. ok. And don't tell me what I spelled wrong or anything about my grammar. You got it! Good.

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        • thegypsysailor

          Well, I guess I'm not the only one who finds your complete lack of coherent English irritating. Are you gonna send a mafia hit man after every one of them, too?

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          • DiamondGirl

            Remember I won, Now why U startin again u old fart. what happened can't get it up for 20 year old nancy. What r u in love with me. You must b, I have three dudes stalking me. So u know I'm something, And I don't think they care about my English, You get me Gypsy Queer. Honey Im 40 and I wouldn't take u. You don't make enough money and your monkey don't work, and if I can't make it work no one can, get it? no one on this site belives u. Give it up old goat BAAAAAAAAH!

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            • DiamondGirl

              Who's that beyotch, is that your fugly girl, probably she sounds like a bloody cunt!

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          • DiamondGirl

            Bad day gypsyfaggot, Aw too bad arthritis botherin u good. I missed u though. even though your the loser. Lucien said what a nice guy u r so why u so mean to me? I guess your entertainment consists of fighting with insane woman. What an old Schmuck. Love ya xoxoxo.

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            • thegypsysailor

              All that vitriol and you didn't even answer the question. "Are you gonna send a mafia hit man after every one of them, too"?
              You know what I've noticed about all your posts? You keep saying how your husband loves you so much, how he gives you diamonds, how he gives you money (oh, so much money, apparently), but you have never, EVER mentioned loving him. So sad, honey.

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        • Shelbs

          i think its obvious that im a girl because my username is Purple and its spelled "shelbs" thats obviously a girls name and is short for "shelby" so i think we can Confirm that im a queen i know not Everyone is perfect everyone makes mistakes everybody has those days you just gotta work it Again and Again till you get it right

          One day youll find a way?

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          • thegypsysailor

            Oh dear. Sorry to inform you, but you are in serious danger from DiamondGirl. Last week she threatened to send a mafia hit man after me, and now she thinks (I've no idea how she got the idea) that you are my girlfriend (who DiamondGirl steadfastly maintains doesn't exist, unless she, DiamondGirl, needs to put someone other than me down, so she will concede that for that second, I do have a girlfriend, but she's ugly.
            Shelbs, be warned. DiamondGirl has associated you with me, so now your life is also in peril.
            I am so sorry.

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            • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

              yall gotta be closing yalls second set o them there parentheses. all that other shit im not sure bout but im still bettin my best goat on my new dream girl.

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          • DiamondGirl

            Beyotch I know u ain't startin with me. And I am the Queen. got it? I got diamonds u only wished u had in your dreams. and that better than your stupid Grammar one day you'll find a way to shut your stupid hole. It's obvious that ur a nasty little twit r u sure you wanna start with me? Little girl. I think not. Get your cunt right! Fuck off.

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            • Shelbs

              You Said You Wanna Be Startin' Somethin' You Got To Be Startin' Somethin' It's Too High To Get Over And The Pain Is Thunder I Don't Know Why But They Said She Had A Breakdown Maybe It Was The "F" She Made In English Her Native Language We Don't Know Exactly What Happened After That But The Little Girl Never Went To Collage But Still I Believe In Her Just So She Can Believe In Herself And Learn Grammar To Shine Bright Like A Diamond

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    • DiamondGirl

      Now that's more normal, and funnier!

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      • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

        hows bout a date? ill spend somea my chickens to fly up to the big city and show yall how they do it up on the farmland. hell, I might even spend a goat!

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        • thegypsysailor

          You two should get along wonderfully; not communicating well.

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          • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

            now now mr man, I aint onea them big city fancyboys what gets with other boys so im not quite as astute as yall. please dont ruin my chances with this fine fine citygirl. maybe ill send her a telegram with a poem!

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            • thegypsysailor

              Sorry. I won't stand in your way, AT ALL! Does the 3 second rule work as well on sidewalks as it does on kitchen floors?

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