Is it normal that i'm jealous of my newborn sister?

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Ok so i'm 19 and starting to get feelings of jealousy towards my newborn sister. I have a 15 year old brother and we dont get along unless we are not talking to each other. But my mom and dad decided to have a baby and now shes here over a week old. My dad tells me that he's going to raise this baby right because he wasnt around when i was little. He said he wont screw her up like he did me. My mom was in the hospital for quite a long time and she came back a different person. This baby girl changed my lifestyle. I cant really go hang out with my friends because i have to be moral support my mom even made me quit my job to stay at home. My dad and her take care of the baby. Im not expecting attention because i didnt really get it to begin with. Is it normal that im jealous of the newborn baby?

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    I think its normal.
    I never had any siblings and Ive always been secretly glad. I know that sounds awful but you don't miss what you've never had.

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  • CockMonglerTheGreat
    10 years ago

    Your 19... and your parents are still having kids... Dayum your dads still got balls of iron... or your mother had you when she was a teen... Either way... Props to you for admitting your jealous.

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  • LAgirl427
    10 years ago

    Im jealous of my older sister but she's 19 though. She's very beautiful, she gets called beautiful by everyone, she had 3 boyfriends in her entire life time! She's lighter than me but that's not the problem. She's tall 5'9, dark hair, busty curvy figure and she has lots of guys that find her attractive and it makes me wanna fucking cry! I recently found out on her Facebook page that her boyfriend wanted to have sex with her for the first time and im still a virgin. Im short, dark skinned, just as pretty as her but im short. Im 5'4 and feel ashamed that im not like her. But yeah it's normal to be jealous of your sister but not your baby sister

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  • ForMyPeaceOfMind
    11 years ago

    As sad as your situation sounds, it's normal. Parents tend to dote over their youngest children...especially the last born, it's their last shot to get things right in their mind! I know you're hurting, but I hope you can develop a bond with your sister...you have to remember that it's not her fault, she's just a baby!

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  • topper33
    11 years ago

    so its been a while how are you getting along now? i do hope well.

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    • Skyskycarvel
      11 years ago

      Well my dad doesnt want me to hold her or touch her because he doesnt want germs around her. My mom has changed and she doesnt talk me anymore. So im moving out in april i got a place and everything

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      • topper33
        11 years ago

        im so sorry but i do hope you think its for the best

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  • BohemianBridgette
    11 years ago

    That's really messed up your dad said that. :/ I'm the youngest of 3, and I have heard my parents say they knew how to raise me better than my sisters because they had already experienced everything and knew what to expect. I'm not really sure why you had to quit your job, and I understand you being jealous. I'm pretty sure it's normal especially because it's affected your life so much and changed your parents.

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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago

    Won't believe it but same thing happend when my twin bros were born I couldent even se them and my dad just engorged me I was 7 at the time dads are dicks my mom came in my room every night and told me that my dad wasent relly that happy how I turned out I was fuckin 7 most people are dicks my dad dosent like my sisters ether

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    • Skyskycarvel
      11 years ago

      Wow...thts sad. I hate how parents think their kids need to b perfect. And tht if u dont follow wht they have in store for u it suddenly makes u the bad guy cuz u have ur own personality and way of thinking. So my dad says we had another kid to c if we can train her right and hope she doesnt act like you. Do they not realize tht i have feelings too!!! I just dont get it

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      • Ryan556
        11 years ago

        Ya parents are cruel I will never be that way the ouldest kid will have the same amount of attenchion I think the reason my dad didn't like me was cause I qulified for overweight at least I don't have that anymore I'm ok with it
        cause he gave more attention to my sisters already they were 14 at the time

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        • Skyskycarvel
          11 years ago

          Ok thts a horrible reason for ur dad not to like you. He shouldve likes u for who u were. Yea id nvr want to b a parent like mine. When i was little i thought the world of my parents until i turned 9. Im the oldest sibling in my family which r u in urs? And i say being the oldest sucks because my parents xpect more out of me alot more. My bro doesnt even like me hes 15 we nvr got along. Which is fine i dont even talk to him anymore anyways. And hes a big mamas boy and now hes a momma and daddys boy. I feel like a stranger in my own home

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          • Ryan556
            11 years ago

            No I'm the middle child and that is 10x werse and i was a chubby kid so my dad aventully said screw this kid I don't care I'm fucking happy I'm not living with them my uncle was nice to so was my aunt they had a boy was m best friend within a month I was skinny and my dad wanted me to come back I told him to fucking go to hell and flipped him off

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            • Skyskycarvel
              11 years ago

              Wow tht is messed up. Big time. My mom was just in the hospital for 68 days and i had all the freedom i wanted and now tht shes home and the baby is home its like im back in my cage. Ive nvr had a curfew and my dad said hes giving me one now cuz of the baby. Im like wht!? At least u had the guts to tell ur dad all tht. I dont im afraid of my dad. Hes always scared me since i was little.

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  • topper33
    11 years ago

    have you changed his/ or her diapers yet?

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    • Skyskycarvel
      11 years ago

      My dad wont let me and he wont let me hold her either

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      • topper33
        11 years ago

        why not?thats strange

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    My Mom did the same damned thing to me when I was 17. I had to stay at home after school most of the time or sometimes skip school because she wanted to have a baby with a broke illegal immigrant. She couldn't even afford us, let alone another baby, but she wanted it so bad.

    Your Mom was probably feeling old and your parents thought that having a baby would improve their relationship, and from the sounds of it, it didn't. It is extremely unreasonable for a parents to ask you to quit your job because they need a hand to hold because they wanted to bring another kid into this world. Idiots.

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    • Skyskycarvel
      11 years ago

      Yea it sucks. And my brother is sick so its always me doing everything. I miss my job so much it got me away from my house and i could just b myself. I liked what i did.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Yeah, I'm sorry you had to do that. I hate it when parents lay responsibilities like that on theirs kids because of their own insecurities.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I can understand your anger. It's not fair that you don't get to go out and hang out with your friends because of THEIR baby that THEY made. It makes perfect sense. You should be allowed to do your own thing and they should be responsible for the child. Even though she's your sister, and you she love her, she's still their responsibility and they need to find a way to make it work. I'm glad my rents are to old to have anymore kids because I'd be pissed if they did that to me.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    "He said he wont screw her up like he did me."

    ^That is fucked up for him to say something like that.

    I do think it is normal though. She is getting all the attention you never had, and you feel like that is unfair. Why is she any more deserving than you should have been? Well the truth is, she isn't. However, this is not something that you can control. Getting angry or upset over it will not do you any good at all. Try to realize this, and please don't let any envious/jealous feelings you are having shed over and possibly turn into animosity towards your younger sister. After all, it's not her fault.

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