Is it normal that i'm jealous of my friend and his girlfriend?

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Ok, so this may seem completely crazy, but hear me out.

A guy I've known for over 6 years is now dating a girl. I found out and all of a sudden I've become pretty jealous. But there's more to the story...

He made it clear to me a long time ago that he was interested in me as more than just a friend. In fact, he made it clear a couple of times. But the timing was never right for me and I told him: "I just want to be friends". I know I hurt his feelings a little, but I didn't want to be unfair and get into a relationship with him if I wasn't completely sure and ready.

Since then I've a couple of short relationships, nothing too serious. He hasn't dated anyone at all until very recently. I guess maybe I thought he would always be available, and now he isn't.

Truthfully I was never fully sure what I wanted.
I still don't really know completely. All I know is that I've always kept him in my mind and we've somewhat kept in touch. Ever since he found a g/f, though, I feel pretty jealous. Is this normal considering I rejected him in the past?? Am I just really selfish? I really REALLY need some advice!

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  • otisslang
    12 years ago

    everyone wants wat they cant have.

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  • Spin
    12 years ago

    I think you were used to having the attention from him and being liked by him. Now that it has been taken away, perhaps you feel that he found someone "better" than you, and therefore no longer gives that sort of attention to you. Make sure that you seriously want him before you ever try to go out with him. My friend once rejected a guy, but after he went out with her friend she starting feeling as if she liked him once he was gone.

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  • gogo45
    12 years ago

    It seems as though you have a strong emotional attachment to him and you want to keep is that way so that's why you have not said yes to dating him. I feel that you have to get to the root of why you don't want to date him and deal with it, that way you can decide on if you want to date him or not and release yourself from this. Also you mat be afraid he'll get to close and see all the imperfections you see in yourself and he may not want to deal with you at all.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Dude my best friend is going out with some 1 that I went out with for more then a year talk about jelous

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      12 years ago

      Yeah but once you break up you no longer have any say over that person, even if you're jealous.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    It's normal. You're now realizing that, "you don't know what you got until it's gone".

    Now, he's in the arms of another woman. If you really do love him, you'll wanna see him happy, so you won't discourage that relationship. Right?

    Don't wait on him. The timing was wrong on both parts. He wanted you when you didn't know what you wanted. Now, you want him when he's in a relationship. Only time will tell if you guys are meant to be. But don't hold your breath, and don't let it get you down. Time will tell. Time always tells.

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Don't be jealous of his girlfriend after you turned down his offer to be the one he holds and loves, you were his first pick and you denied him. You probably just want him now that you finally can't have him.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      12 years ago

      This.

      You had your chance. You told him no so he found someone else.

      He did nothing wrong.

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