Is it normal that i'm jealous of my fiancee's ex girlfriend?

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My fiancee and I have known each other since I was 11. Back then, he started dating my sister's best friend and we lost contact for 13 years. He found me through facebook last year and we immediately started dating. Almost 2 months into our relationship (on his birthday) he got really drunk and passed out. I got on the computer and still pulled up was a conversation he was having with his ex (I didn't know who she was when this happened). A chat saying, "I love you Brina... blah blah... you're so awesome... I love you so much".. etc. So I viewed her profile and saw he commented on ONE pic of her (the day before----sober), in which she was only wearing a bikini, "this is a really nice pic, when was this taken?" Needless to say, the love of my past 13 years completely broke my heart in a billion pieces. Then, his other ex (my sister's best friend) starts texting him all the time, saying she will do ANYthing to break us up. It's been a year since any of this and I still cry to myself imagining him with them. The ex he told he loves is so pretty and I can't look past what he did... is it normal that I'm obsessing over these girls?? Every time he tells me I'm sexy or the most beautiful girl in the world, etc, I think to myself, "and I'm sure you said that to them, too".. I harbor a little resentment for him choosing my sister's friend over me back then, but I was 11 & he was 15.. what's wrong with me?!

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  • rexdarling
    12 years ago

    If you really love him and want your relationship to work, you have to move past what happened. Has he made great efforts to help you reestablish your trust in him? If you feel that you can no longer trust him, then it may not work out.

    My ex did the same thing and managed to patch things up between us. I stayed with him, but I left a few years later when he started to engage in his old habits again. I feel like I wasted my life on that jerk.

    Do what will make you happy and give you the best quality of life. If you really want to be with him, be willing to work through this challenge. It will not be easy. Best of luck to you.

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  • Sammonk1e
    12 years ago

    I mentioned in the story and my last comment that this has NOT happened since we were first together. It was 13 mths ago. He hasn't come CLOSE to anything like that since. Cut off all ties to all females, etc. But I am the one obsessing over it...

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  • Gold_Lion
    12 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with you, this is completely unacceptable behavior for an engaged man. You need to talk to him about it and nip it in the bud ASAP, or else reconsider marrying him.

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  • Sammonk1e
    12 years ago

    No, this happened just under 2 months into our relationship. Nothing like that, or even close, has happened since. I'm just worried there is something wrong with ME because I CAN'T stop thinking about those 2 girls... one of which he hasn't been with in 7 years, the other in 5..... ugh!

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  • Noonesperfect
    12 years ago

    Did that happen after u were engaged? If it is then I don't think you should marry him

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Why dont you just talk to him about it? Or go tell those skanky ass bitches to fuck off

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