Is it normal that i'm jealous of my bi best friend?

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Okay, I'm straight and I know that. So I have this best friend (she's also a girl) I met three years ago, and I moved cities two years ago. But we've been keeping contact just about every day through phone and texting, etc. We always see each other on breaks. Well, we're both not the most social people, and since I've moved I've made a lot of friends. She, however, says she only has me and a few others as her friends. I wish she could meet my friends, or make new ones.
So, recently, she just made a new friend. This friend is a girl, and she is apparently very pretty. Apparently this girl has been very nice to my best friend, which is great.
Except for some reason I get jealous. I want her to have close friends, but she's always talking about her. My best friend has a boyfriend, and she always told me that she was straight, but today, she told me on the phone that she has a crush on this new girl.
For some reason I'm bothered. I have no problem with anyone being gay, or bi at all. But for some reason, I don't like the idea of my best friend dating her. Maybe I'm jealous I'll lose our friendship? But I'm not jealous when she dates a boy? This girl always puts down our interests, too, and so my friend pretends that she doesn't enjoy the things that the two of us love (like certain tv shoes, reading, and what not.) And I always find out that she'd go smoke cigs and pot with this girl. I wouldn't even care about that, except for the fact that my friend would then call me saying she almost got caught with the stuff. Personally, I don't like smoking, and I don't reccomend it to her, especially after almost getting caught.
She says she wouldn't mind if she turned bi, and everyone found out, because she'd be dating a "damn attractive girl," so it'd be okay.
I don't know. Why am I so jealous?
Thanks for reading my long wall o' text.

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  • Determination
    11 years ago

    are u unknowingly attracted to her?..tht may be the case too!

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Take the bitch to bed.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    You're jelouse because she's stepped into your territory and you want her out lol Humans are naturally competitive. My best friend is a huge socialite and I've gotten jelouse before, but it all comes down to trust. It's up to you as the best friend to give your honest input on what's she's doing, right or wrong, and be there for her when she makes the wrong decision and she needs you :) That's what sets your apart from the rest.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    So for a long time you were her closest friend and you got most of her attention.

    Now someone else is getting that attention. Perhaps you should consider that you're suppose to be HAPPY that she found someone... and that being upset that she's not giving you all of her attention is a bit selfish.

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  • dln.norts
    11 years ago

    get with her..that will be the best thing 4 you..

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    She obviously knows what she's getting herself into, so there's no warning her. The only thing you can do is tell her you're concerned, let her learn from her mistakes, and be a good friend for her while she goes through it and crashes. It will mean a lot to her in the end.

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  • fluffyluv
    11 years ago

    Seems like a normal reaction to me, if you confront her about it and just confess your feelings about it you will get over it quickly.

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