Is it normal that i'm incredibly scared of commitment

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So here's my problem. I've been through relationship after relationship that I've just ended because I'm scared to commit to anyone. I think it started when i girlfriend from about 2 and a half years ago dumped me and it really hit me hard and it's been really difficult to get over, even now. Also, a girl I knew for a long time and i had very strong feelings for shot me down and that hit me hard too. Anyone i have gotten with have been really in to me and i just cant stand the idea of committing to someone, even though i want to. it depresses me a lot and more that usual as of recent. is this just a phase? am i just waiting for the right one or have i already lost her?

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I think that if you just tell a girl that you want to take it slow she'll understand if she's GF material. When I met my BF we agreed to take it slow since I was sort of fresh out from a relationship ( 2-3 months) and we managed to go less than a month before we went official and committed to one another.

    this said, take it nice and slow and you'll eventually find someone worthy of your feelings.

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    • CaliKhaos
      10 years ago

      Even then I get really scared about committing to someone. I've decided to just not get into a relationship for a while to give myself time to heal. Thanks for the advice.

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  • Gspyder
    10 years ago

    It really just takes time to trust again. I've been pretty badly burned and betrayed. I learned to treat relationships I get into as friendships, like just see it as hanging out and having fun. It helps.

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    • CaliKhaos
      10 years ago

      Thanks for the advice :).

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