Is it normal that i'm in open relationship?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for year and a half. He's a boy from my home town, and I moved because of my collage. Three months ago we agreed to be in an open relationship because of the distance and since we are very young and we would like to experience sex with other people, too. I haven't had sex with anyone other than him yet, but he did. I thought it would bother me, but it doesn't. It doesn't make me feel jealous at all. We love each other very much, we see each other 2-3 times a month and still enjoy spending time together, feels like nothing at all has changed. Do you think it's normal I'm not jealous at all? I know it's just something physical he had with this girl, and I'm totally fine with that. I just can't get jealous. :D

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Comments ( 13 )
  • GothBabe

    If you loved him you would be pissed as hell and in a jealous rage!

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  • gogoduece

    What was so bad on your collage that made you have to move?

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  • mumbum

    I don't get jealous either!!! That is cool.. You are lucky..:)

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  • howaminotmyself

    If you know the love you have for each other I see no reason for you to be jealous. I think most people do feel jealous in your situation but this a result of underlying insecurities or self imposed boundaries. I think it is healthy to experience these types of things with other people. Love and sex can be very powerful and there is no reason to deny yourself such pleasures, especially as consenting adults. Just be sure to be safe.

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  • I don't get jealous either. Not in any circumstance apart from this one. But I've been thinking about this lately and I think I "wouldn't mind" other - but what I think that would really be is that would be so hurt from it, that my brain would physically block all the feelings out. If you know what I mean. So maybe you're really hurt but you're brains trauma coping mechanism has kicked in.

    OR maybe you really just love him as a friend.

    OR you just want an open relationship. Some people do.

    I think you probably just love him as a friend.

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  • butcherdoll

    thank you for your comments. and open relationship was my idea, btw. ;) + i love my boy very much.

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  • IDontAskMuch

    Having read your post it sounds like your trying to convince yourself that your not jealous when in fact your jealous as hell. I also agree with another comment. He is the first to do the deed with someone else which seems like he just wanted your say so so he could sleep with any Tom dick and Harry that he probably already had lined up and you not class it as cheating. So what's stopped you from having other sexual encounters if you agreed to the so called open relationship. I think if it was something you was genuinely happy with you would have already done the deed too but I honestly feel you don't really like the idea and just playing along with it so you don't lose him when infact it sounds like you already have the day you agreed to it. If you truly love someone you don't want to share them. That ain't normal.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    Some things to consider....

    1) You might not care because you might not really care about him much.

    2) If you really want a true open relationship I suggest you study polyamory. In a TRUE and healthy polyamory relationship it's not about getting laid by others when your partner isn't available.

    It's about having extra people in the bedroom, sometimes to share... but the main point is that the core couple is STILL the center of the relationship.

    This sounds more like your guy just wanted permission to cheat without having it feel like cheating.

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  • aduusw

    I'm like you... And I'm a boy... I don't believe that love should b exclusive to justness one person... I may love as many girls as I love.

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  • TheIntellect

    Must've been one hell of a collage. Not many people are into making collages these days.

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  • hardcandy

    Not being jealous is good. Just hope that neither of you has an ongoing sexual relationship with one person, as feelings could very well develop and cause heartbreak in the long run. Trust me there.

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  • randomjelly

    If I'm hungry and someone offers me a delicious steak that I love...there's no way my hungry self is going to share.

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  • SATC

    Sounds like a drem scenario to me. If you are both happy with it then what is the problem?

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