Is it normal that i'm in my early teens and hang out with a 23 y old

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I have gone to a snowboarding camp and bonded with the instructor (he is male, straight, I am male, straight)and we began hanging out on occasion. He is like my mentor, almost like an older brother. I have an abnormal intelligence level (i.e. high IQ, people say talking to me is like talking to a 35 year old). I enjoy his company simply because he is more intelligent than the large majority of people my age (kind of obvious). He recently offered me a job in which I would help him around his shop (he customizes cars, motorcycles etc). I want to work with him but my mom is a little paranoid. She says she doesn't think he is a pedophile (she's met him) but thinks it's odd that I hang out with him. Is it normal for me to do this and my mom to think this way?

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    Well you said he's your mentor, and you're both straight, meaning he's not a pedo. So I don't see anything wrong with it.

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    • Avant-Garde
      11 years ago

      Pedos can be straight!

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  • ceagl
    11 years ago

    There are red flags that should go up when an older person wants to hang out with a much younger child. You are still a child even if you are a teenager. I wouldn't allow my sons to hang out with the guy in this situation. Keep your guard up.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Well... Since you have to be atleast 18 to be on this site, then it can't be that big of an age gap..

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I think that it's normal. I mean, I can kind of understand where you're coming from. When I was in high school, I didn't talk to anyone my own age because they all were so damn stupid to me. I mean, they were immature and none of them seemed to have a bit of common sense, so I get what you mean when you say you don't like to hang around kids your own age. I don't see anything wrong with you befriending someone that's older than you. I mean, you said it was a brotherly thing, so that's okay. I guess it just doesn't look right to see a 23 year old with a young teen.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    It's normal. I've never hanged out with someone who was older than me, but I've have detailed discussions with them. Your sounds worried because your underage and he's not. I don't see anything bad about your situation. He sounds like a good man and I bet you could benefit from this job. Your however sounds like my mother and grandmother. They don't like me hanging around ANY men that are older than me, but yet they're fine with women. It's sexism and ignorance. Try to work something out with your mother and him.

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    • ceagl
      11 years ago

      It't not sexism and ignorance, it's not wanting you to get molested. Do you know how many women are molested? Most women have dealt with older men trying to mess with them even at very young ages, 7 years and up, so it's not like we don't know the dangers.

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      • Avant-Garde
        11 years ago

        No need to be upset. It was my mistake.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    I'm 23 and I'm friends with a 56 year old guy who goes to my gym. When I was about 13 most of my friends were in their 20s because we all smoked weed. If you have common interest then age probably isn't an issue to the friendship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    When I was 16 all of my friends were 25- 30. He is helping you up as he knows how important it is from experience. Just be careful and try not to hurt your mums feelings

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    I hang out with people way older than that. You're normal.

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      Well I think its good to make job connections just make sure he doesnt take advantage of you or anything .

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