Is it normal that i'm in love with someone twice my age?

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Okay, so I am currently in a relationship with a guy I've known since middle school. We are in high-school (seniors) at the moment and about to have our 3-year-anniversary. I'm really stoked about it and in other words, couldn't be happier. Although, another guy has come into the picture, he's very smart and has an amazing sense of humor and is always there for me when I need him, except he's 28. He has been attracted to me for quite some time but now he's grown on me in a passionate way, he told me that we our relationship couldn't be romantic or anything because the law will see him as an enormous asshole. He insisted on kissing me one night to get it out of his system but I shut him down, now I wish I could take it back. Our relationship has caused problems between me and my boyfriend. I'm not sure what to do at this point.

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  • disthing
    10 years ago | pl

    Wait, so you're 14?

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    • KotoniChan
      10 years ago

      Oh, forgive me. Im 17. Hes about ten years older than me I mentioned I was a Senior *hint hint*. Im not sure why I put twice my age. My apologies.

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      • disthing
        10 years ago

        That's OK.

        Actually we sometimes call high school "senior school" here in the UK, so being 'a senior' to us could be anything from 11-18 years old.

        Are you from Japan?

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  • LizardSkin
    10 years ago | pl

    You should have shut him down for the kiss but only because you were already involved.

    You should date who you like better but don't string both guys along.

    I can tell you I dated a girl once last year who was just out of high school, i'm 27. It was great for awhile, but our mutual interests were minimal and it wasn't meant to last.

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  • Complex18
    10 years ago

    You need to leave the older guy alone. It wont work in the end. I'm 28 and have dated a lot of younger girls. But honestly, I was only attracted to them physically and we were too far apart in life for me to ever take them seriously. Stick with your boyfriend. The older guy would only lead to heartbreak.

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    • KotoniChan
      10 years ago

      I felt I needed to just leave it alone. But he sees so much in me and I know it. Hes got his own problems and so do I. And I think I just need to stick to my boyfriend and get over it. Thanks.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    hmm 17 to 28 is a sizeable bracket because of the maturity difference, life experience etc.
    See the same gap, but 23 - 34 I would find totally ok.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I'm quite a bit older than my fiance' (a hell of a lot more than 10 years) and it's working out very well for us. Age, once you are a mature adult, should not carry much weight in the decision of who to love. Certainly an older guy is going to be a better lover, a more attentive companion and hopefully beyond all the childish crap that young men always play at.
    I have no idea what Complex18 found lacking in younger women, but his experience is the exception to the rule that an older man/younger woman relationship has the best chance of success.

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    • LornaMae
      10 years ago

      Yeah, I guess the perspective of your answer does make more sense than considering loving a fine 120-year-old lady.

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    You're fourteen and you're having your THIRD anniversary?? What???

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  • forever_anon
    10 years ago

    If you were truly happy with your boyfriend, you wouldn't have fallen for this other guy. So you may want to re-consider your relationship. With that said, I wouldn't advise diving into a relationship with the older guy just yet. From my experience, being in an age gap relationship is nice at first, but eventually we couldn't relate to each other because he was already set in his ways and ready to settle down, while I was still learning who I was as a person and in no way ready to marry.

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  • Curlybaby0511
    10 years ago

    Love has no age.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    Most of the time you have to go where the heart takes you unless you enjoy being miserable

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    I'm in love with a man, nearly twice my age,
    Don't know what it is, but its a hit from me youthful days,
    As I go my way, I don't care what people say,
    I'm in love with a man, nearly twice my age!

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    • KotoniChan
      10 years ago

      Hazzzaaah! Favorite comment so far.

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      • Freedom_
        10 years ago

        A good song, indeed.

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  • thr
    10 years ago

    I'm not from the US, so I'm surprised to hear that seniors in high school are only 14 years old. Actually, I am assuming that the title is a bit imprecise, and that you are older.

    I'm also sceptical of how a kissing someone you are attracted to helps get it out of one's system, but what do I know.

    LizardSkin provides some good points. Be respectful of your boyfriend, and don't cheat on him.
    And be aware that you may find that you don't have much in common with the 28 year old.

    Also beware of laws that may make actions of the 28 year old illegal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Why was my comment deleted?

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    • dorsal
      10 years ago

      My best guess would be that it got deleted because a person decided to delete it. Your next question should try to identify this individual and the question after that should perhaps engage them on their motives.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Many people on this site are petty boobs.
        First my comment was deleted, then they had to thumb down my question.
        At least I got their attention.

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        • dorsal
          10 years ago

          Those are some statements that have been made.

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