Is it normal that i'm in love with my daughter?

Here is the way I feel about my cat. (Hear me out. I know it's ridiculous, but just go with it.) Lots of parents really really love their children and they can listen to them all day and they like doing things for them and snuggling with them and giving them (chaste) kisses and that wonderful stuff.

But you also like to do some of those things with people you love romantically. The difference is that you don't want to passionately kiss your daughter full on the lips like if you were in romantic love with her. You don't want anything to do with your daughter sexually because you aren't really sexually attracted to her. You want to give her a little peck on the cheek to make her smile because you like seeing her happy.

It's a bond that can't really be replicated. Some parents love their kids more than their partners, and it is totally natural. Your bond with your partner has conditions and stresses like money, fidelity, etc., but your bond with your daughter doesn't. You are experiencing unconditional love which is totally different than probably anything else you have experienced, so you try to align it with romantic type love since they do have a few similarities. Don't worry. It's normal.

I know you want to be her friend, but when things get rough you have to be able to step up to the plate and do what is best for her in the long run. Sometimes that means teaching her responsibility for her actions or commitment or any number of valuable life lessons. Sometimes it means taking away a privilege when she misbehaves. It can also mean celebrating her triumphs like getting straight A's with an ice cream treat.

Overall, you're right. You're in love. Pure, unconditional love. Just make sure to still be a parent when you have to be.

Put your daughter first. Back off.

Your job is NOT to be your daughter's friend; it is to be her parent. One cannot be both, unless you let your wife be the disciplinarian and shirk your parental duties.

about as normal as me giving my grandma a rim job

These are very strong feelings you're having but if you don't check them, if you don't speak to a professional and get to the root of your feelings you could do irreparable damage to your whole family. She is your child but she is not yours, it is your job to ensure her mental, emotional and physical safety and if there is even a moment of doubt in your feelings, then you need to get help and stop this in it's track because the human mind is complicated but things like this are a slippery slope, so please for her sake and for yours, seek a professional's help.

you should take your daughter to see justins bieber. then when shes wet and good to go you just slide up in there and...

dry her off with a towel as she might catch a cold as they're always spraying water at these concerts. WTF did you think i was gonna say you fucking perve?

Woody Allen married his daughter....I am SURE she is COMPLETELY NORMAL (said with tongue planted firmly in cheek).

Like others have said, you are feeling unconditional love. That is great that you can get that. Don't expect you will always get that from her as she grows older, teenagers have a mind of their own, but, it is OK. And, it is something she will outgrow, and, as an adult, she will LOVE you even more.

Now, you say "Why couldn't I marry you instead of your Mum". OK, now, that is weird. First off, it is Mom. But, you are British, or something, whatever. You need to realize, that without her "Mum", you could have NEVER created such a wonderful person, and, no matter how hard you try, you cannot take parts of her Mom out of her, just like you can't remove you from her. You are both a part of her.

Sounds like you should try to work on your relationship with her Mum....assuming you are still together. If not, you should at least appreciate that your daughter is a part of both of you.

While it is cute to say things like that, it kind of sounds a little creepy, and, you don't want to send mixed-messages to your daughter. Worse, you CERTAINLY don't want her repeating this kind of stuff to her Mum....because, if there IS a fracture in your relationship with her, you better believe her Mum is gonna find a way to use it against you!

Don't give her Mum ANY ammo to break the 2 of you apart.

You sound like a good Dad, with good intentions.

Keep it that way.

PS - I just re-read your post, did the math. You were 17 when you had her? Sheesh, that is YOUNG. Good for you, still maintaining a relationship with her. But, realize something, a lot of guys were TWICE your age before having kids...including your's truly (me, if you didn't figure that out!!!)....you are SO young. It makes my heart hurt. Just, do the right thing, and watch what you say....it CAN and WILL be used against you!!! Especially when you post it up on WEB SITES!!!! My advice, once again, be VERY careful what you say. You did a pretty good job on this one, but, your on the border.

Maybe in a few years she will fall in Love with you too

This is an abomination!

its troll time

Honestly I think that there is always the possibility of some kind of uncomfortable tension or awkwardness between parents and children of the opposite gender, for example between fathers and daughters, or mothers and sons. I think people choose not to talk about or even acknowledge it, because just the thought is considered so taboo. And I'm not even talking about incest, just the presence of thoughts and feelings that don't seem to fit into a family environment. But you are older, you are the adult, and it's your job to be mature and responsible and teach your daughter about life. Don't ever do anything that could cause her to betray her trust in you. She is depending on you to look out for her, never forget that. The relationship between parent and child is unconditional love, and because of the close emotional bond and your intimate involvement in her life, it can feel like so much more than just that. Your daughter is pure and innocent, like a blank canvas, and maybe you subconsciously desire those qualities in a partner.

You are still young. You're only 17 years older than your daughter. People make a big fuss about teenage pregnancy and teenage mothers, but there's hardly any discussion about teenage fathers, who also go through similar emotions. You happen to be very attached to her and you are confusing those pure feelings for romantic feelings. This is (maybe) because you're not happy in terms of where you are concerning love in your own life.

I have no intentions to commit incest with her. I'd never do anything to her. I'm just in love with her, sure I am.

The feelings can be normal but acting on them is another story. This type of incest can have great rewards or great disaster. The later is what usually happens. Are you willing to take the risk?