Is it normal that i'm in love with my cousin?

First understand whether it is love or lust. 19 years is a long time, both of you must have evolved and may be carrying a lot of baggage. Experience is the best teacher, so express your love. If it is debate on cousin love, here is a comment I wrote on another message that may help you get rid of the shame or guilt.

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It is apparent to me from the negative messages above that popular religious conditioning of the mind has guided these individuals to detest people who derive happiness from an innocent energy that is flowing in all of us. The factor of disgust arises from the bible/Koran/Geeta etc. interpreted and propagated by the priests who are responsible for creating %%u201Cguilt%%u201D and %%u201Cshame%%u201D in you WITHOUT understanding what lies at the core of all human beings. The question of what is legal and illegal stems from this social conditioning of the mind by priests, parents and society.

Labels of brothers, sisters, cousins, wife etc., have been given by the society that formed these rules of marriage to avoid deformities in procreation. They were not intended to deprive us of happiness that comes through the body and mind (fact conveniently concealed by world religions). Happiness will someday take us beyond the mind. When you cannot differentiate between sex for deriving energy V/S sex for procreation, confusion arises in the mind. Most religions of the world have exploited this ignorance of humans for their own benefit. Can anyone differentiate between the happiness and contentment derived from having an emotional and physical union with a cousin V/S the happiness received from having a union with your legal girlfriend or wife? An innocent orgasm that brings a momentary glimpse of god cannot be different. The mind cannot stop us from deriving this love energy. The guilt factor always comes after the act because of your ignorance. Our instinct ALWAYS let this energy flow freely. There are more psychopaths in this world because they have conditioned themselves to suppress the flow of energy.

The above argument is not intended to justify cousin love and sex, neither is it intended to propagate it. However, if it happens that you fell in love with your cousin and experienced a state of happiness and bliss in letting the love energy flow, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN IT. It is good that you were AWARE of the fact that you could not get married and procreate. I pray that you are able to derive this energy from other people who you fall in love with. Remember that LOVE does not know how to differentiate it is the ugly conditioned mind that does this job.

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DOn't listen to all these judgmental people. Go for it!!! You're big kids now, and your mothers aren't even around to stop you!!!

if you do this you will have babies that only have one eye and youu will live in a trailer park and shall be called inbred redneck
im australian...i kno these things :)

Life's too short and you only live it once. Do it.

unfortunately for you****

in asian values, this is completely normal to marry ""First cousin, our mothers (both deceased) were sisters""

so if u both are in love, there is no reason to stay apart. i would advice go for it.

i under stand beaing in love with ur cuz as a teen with al the hormons but NOW?????????????

Go for it

For god's sake take a cold shower. You are just overwhelmed with feelings but don't do anything you will likely regret. And just what is he up to? I think you are being seduced.

It is one thing to lose a friend, it is another to lose a lover, it is something completely different to lose family. I think losing family is the worst of all. Do you want to risk burning your bridge with him?

Saying you want it does not change it is wrong. Control yourself even if it drives you mad. Beside might be a chance that he rejects you. Who is going to suspect their favorite cousin to be in love with him? What if he says no what are you going to do force him? Like that is going to end well for you. You have to realize some things in this world are wrong and there is a chance he only loves you like a cousin. If you get this type of rejection it will kill you. Are you prepared for this? I would hate if someone in my family fell in love with me. I am suppose to love and trust my family not want them as sex partners. If one was in love with me it means I would lose my friend. Do you really want to ruin the friendship you have with him over a sex fantasy? Is losing them forever worth it? You look at it assuming he feels the same. Big chance this is one sided. Even if you push and pursaude him into doing him it might only be your persistence.

it's only normal for rednecks and hillbillies.

I hear parents tell other parents "What do they teach kids these days?!" But when you look at this, you kinda wonder what they taught adults back then XD

Don't do something you both will regret just go in the shower and play with yourself until you get over him.

This is not normal, do you have trust issues with men? Do you feel comfortable with him because he is family and can't abandon you? Have you grieved the loss of your mother? I am sure there is a great guy out there for you but I don't think this is it. I think you are confusing safety of being intimate with love! He is leaning on you as a family member, I think he is a bit worse for wear after his last break up but he will get back out there again. I suggest you get out there first and get your real man :)

Unfortunately its not normal. Does your cousine even feel this way because if you reveal your feelings you could ruin your relationship.

Gross

so wrong