Is it normal that i'm in love with my best friend?

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i fell in love with my best friend currently, about two years ago, here the problem, she's also a girl. i didn't think about my feelings for her for a while because i moved away for a year but now i'm back. we met through mutual friends and she surprised me at the airport. my other friend who's also friends with her, told me that hannah (fake name) also liked me and she had confessed to liking me a bit before i came back but only to a guy who turned her down. hannah told him "it's okay i have my baby coming back home. she makes me happy." so i don't know what to do. i'm confused now because we got extremely high and she's was all up on me, wanting to fuck and cuddling me and holding my hand but the morning after she claimed that it was me doing all that to her. i texted her asking what's up and i never even told her i liked her and she just said "i'm not ready to have anything with you." i tried asking her out but she said she already had someone to go out with. some guy.

she's just looking for fun 2
you should move on 3
she's into you 2
she's straight 3
doesn't want you 2
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  • strangethingshappen
    6 years ago

    I don't know..She sounds very confusing and contradictory :/
    If she really wanted you, she'd be with you.
    If you have asked her out then that's surely enough of a sign that she knows u feel the same way. I mean, I would say maybe she's scared..maybe she's never dated a girl before? How old are you both?
    I think explaining your true feelings towards her would be a good idea so she knows how much you want to be with her.
    Then again, this would make u vulnerable and given she's already contradicting herself, you may not want to put your heart out on the line.
    She also may just being fucking with you for fun. Sadly it happens and you can never trust what someone says.
    I always like to remember in situations like these- Actions speak LOUDER than words.
    So don't listen to what she says but watch what she does and this will give you your answer.

    Good luck x

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  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    Maybe she thought she wanted to be with you, but changed her mind, because she was only curious about it?

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  • strangethingshappen
    6 years ago

    I fell for my best friend/ one of them.
    I loved her ever since I met her. Every day, for about 4-5 years I couldn't stop thinking about her. She was the love of my life and the first girl I had feelings for, before her I had guy crushes.
    I confessed my feelings for her only about 2 years ago but she was already with a dick head of a guy and she said the way she felt towards me wasnt sexual.

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    • Boojum
      6 years ago

      That's kinda sad.

      Who knows? Maybe she'll have second thoughts?

      About half the lesbians I've known were married or in relationships with male assholes before they came out. I have wondered if it was some kind of subconscious self-sabotaging thing. They felt social or familial pressures to be straight, so they picked the most obnoxious guy they came across. After being miserable with him for a while, they could more easily justify to themselves the feelings they'd always had for other women.

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      • strangethingshappen
        6 years ago

        You there ?

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      • strangethingshappen
        6 years ago

        Yeah I was utterly heart broken and I'll always have the wound to some degree but since telling her I was able to let her go finally since I used to hold onto hope.
        False hope obviously :/
        Well idk, I really don't think she'll have second thoughts as when we were friends, I was lucky if I got to hang with her since she didn't dedicate much time to me. I felt like I meant nothing to her, even as a friend which hurt even more. We were close though, we would share amazing hugs (long embraceful ones ), she would often say she loves me heaps. I believe we shared a "moment" on the beach one day years ago. We were high & with a group of friends.
        I was checking out everyone's eye color and noticing how much stronger in color they'd become. When I looked into hers,it felt different, as cheesy as it sounds it's like time stood still for a while and we were just gazing into each others eyes. I felt something that day! Years later when we had a fall out then reconnected, she said that day on the beach it's like we had a connection and it's like we interconnected. Then she said :
        "Kinda sounds like romance".
        That day forward, I had high hopes she felt a romantic one like myself.

        I don't know why women would feel pressured into being straight in today's age though? LGBT has become more socially accepted..?

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        • Boojum
          6 years ago

          I don't think the eye-gazing thing sounds cheesy at all.

          Looking deeply into someone's eyes can produce powerful feelings, and it's risky in a situation like the one you describe. Sad that it didn't work out, even though she apparently did feel some connection.

          I don't know much about your situation, but you do hear stories about people finally realizing they belong together decades after they met. I'm not suggesting you consider putting your life on hold and just hoping, but far weirder things have been known to happen.

          When I refer to lesbians I know, bear in mind that I'm a geriatric, and my close friends all grew up in a time when being LGBT was definitely not accepted.

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          • strangethingshappen
            6 years ago

            Thank you for your response! Would be a real miracle if she were to come to this realisation! However, I know most are skeptical with physchics but I once had a reading on her to try get me through and have some closure and I was told my ex friend used to see what she could get from me and that she was very conditional which definitely explains the way she used to act.
            So I hardly doubt she will all of a sudden realize or think she loves me when it was conditional

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  • Cute_n_classy
    6 years ago

    I'm inlove with my bestfriend too or i would help you out.

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