Is it normal that i'm in love with my adult stepdaughter?
I'm in love with my adult stepdaughter. She knows how i feel about her because i told her. I know that she loves me as a daughter loves a father. I need her to love me as a woman loves a man. Her birth year is 1964 and her first name is Ann.
I legally adopted her at the age of 6. My wifes child from a previous marrage.
I also know that if anything were to happen between Ann and i it would have to be in secret. First let me say that there is no man in Ann's life. It's quite possible that she is a 47 year old virgin. I don't believe she is a lesbian either because there isn't a woman in her life either.
I have loved her for many, many years. How i came about telling her and it wasn't easy to do so. I don't remember the exact date, sometime in July this year 2012 she called home as she does every night when she gets home from her place of employment, to let me know that she got home safely from work.
This particular night i was home alone and she was home alone. I said to her, Ann, can i speak freely and confidentially to you? She said yes you can. I further said what i'm about to say isn't easy for me to say and i'll never bring up the subject again. Also when i'm finished talking, you can scold me, you can give me hell, you can even tell me to go to hell. To my surprise she didn't do any of those things.
I said to her, Ann, you know i love you with all my heart as a father loves a daughter and you may or may not know that i also love you as a man loves a woman and there isn't anything that i wouldn't do for you. Her response was, your my dad and i love you and thats that.
Our father and daughter relationship is still good and she still greets me with a hug and kiss on the cheek. Some how i think she is holding back.
Let me also say that if some how we become intimate, she would have to make a move on me. I won't press the issue and as i told her, i would not bring up the subject again.
I have many sleepless nights over her | 5 | |
Should i persue it further? | 8 | |
Should i forget about it? | 20 | |
Should i seek professional help as in councelling | 47 |