Is it normal that i'm in love with my adult stepdaughter?

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I'm in love with my adult stepdaughter. She knows how i feel about her because i told her. I know that she loves me as a daughter loves a father. I need her to love me as a woman loves a man. Her birth year is 1964 and her first name is Ann.

I legally adopted her at the age of 6. My wifes child from a previous marrage.

I also know that if anything were to happen between Ann and i it would have to be in secret. First let me say that there is no man in Ann's life. It's quite possible that she is a 47 year old virgin. I don't believe she is a lesbian either because there isn't a woman in her life either.

I have loved her for many, many years. How i came about telling her and it wasn't easy to do so. I don't remember the exact date, sometime in July this year 2012 she called home as she does every night when she gets home from her place of employment, to let me know that she got home safely from work.

This particular night i was home alone and she was home alone. I said to her, Ann, can i speak freely and confidentially to you? She said yes you can. I further said what i'm about to say isn't easy for me to say and i'll never bring up the subject again. Also when i'm finished talking, you can scold me, you can give me hell, you can even tell me to go to hell. To my surprise she didn't do any of those things.

I said to her, Ann, you know i love you with all my heart as a father loves a daughter and you may or may not know that i also love you as a man loves a woman and there isn't anything that i wouldn't do for you. Her response was, your my dad and i love you and thats that.

Our father and daughter relationship is still good and she still greets me with a hug and kiss on the cheek. Some how i think she is holding back.

Let me also say that if some how we become intimate, she would have to make a move on me. I won't press the issue and as i told her, i would not bring up the subject again.

I have many sleepless nights over her 5
Should i persue it further? 8
Should i forget about it? 20
Should i seek professional help as in councelling 47
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  • Jenna5960
    11 years ago

    Considering that you raised her and you are married it is a huge no no. Also not to hurt your feelings but if she felt the same I think she would have told you the night you told her how you felt. She understands that you are her father regardless of blood and that is that. How horrible would your wife feel if she discovered this and she possibly could so you better get over this quickly or let your wife move on to a man who will love only her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Dude, no. Just....no.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    No...

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  • GlassDarkly31
    11 years ago

    You helped raise her! What the hell is wrong with you?

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  • Wendell
    11 years ago

    Don't turn love into lust

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  • Gooddaddy
    1 year ago

    She owes you big time, it's rightfully yours

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  • erosnytes
    6 years ago

    Here is an interesting experiment - do a yahoo image search on daughter and then do a yahoo image search on step daughter, (make sure the child filter is off so you get true results). That should make it fairly obvious that guys feel much different about step daughters than they do daughters.
    The fact of the matter is there is a built in physiological deterrent in your pheromones that helps keep people from being sexually attracted to close relatives. That simply is not there for step daughters so sexual attraction takes place whether society likes it or not.

    So, its normal to want to have sex with her. However, you shouldn't do it because it will lead to problems. (Quite frankly, all sex leads to problems, but this will lead to more problems than normal). Just keep thinking about her while you jerk off and try to be satisfied with that.

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  • Cory1968
    9 years ago

    I feel your pain. I am very much I love with my 30 year old stepdaughter. I really need to watch my self around her, because I'm afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing to upset her. What I'm trying to say is, that you are far from being the only one that's wishes that she would say I love you back to them! Hang in there good luck!

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  • wetemke
    10 years ago

    You can't control how you feel about another. It's natural. She doesn't feel the same, leave it at that.

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  • tommyC
    11 years ago

    wow if she is 47, i can't imagine where u are in life. well, woody allen survived the flak surrounding his love for soon-yi; but then he's woody allen and mia farrow wasn't legally married to him.

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  • anna.ahsan
    11 years ago

    a big NO for u.

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