Is it normal that i'm honestly not sure how to make friends?

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I'm 27 and I don't have a single long term friend. Is it normal that I'm not sure how to make friends? Growing up, I never had any freedom. My mom was young and in love with a man who didn't want children. My biological father never wanted anything to do with me, so I was stuck. My step dad was verbally and physically abusive to me and my mom (23 years later she's still married to him) She and I never bonded because I felt like she chose him over me. She never told me she loved me, or did ANYTHING with me and always defended him instead of me. He made her keep me in the house and in my room. He tried to malest me but I fought back. My mom didnt believe me (still doesn't) and I was sent to live with an aunt at 16. By then, I was already a social phobe. I tried to talk to my mom (who now has a daughter with him and they give her the world) and now, she tells me I am the way I am because I want to be. Really? Who wants to be alone? Its easy for her to say now since the 3 of them are as happy as can be. I feel tossed to the side or thrown in a closet. Six painful relationships later, I don't know what to feel, think, or do. Why can't I just get out and start enjoying life like everybody else? Where do I start? Is this normal?

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  • medopal
    12 years ago

    You sound like a nice guy, throw your past behind you and look for the future. Look for some guy friends who share some interests with you, and also look for a girl to friend, just don't ever mention this story to her!

    BTW, you can start looking for friends on the internet.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Sorry to hear about your past...it sounds awful. But it's not too late for a fresh start. If you want to make friends, just say hi to someone and go from there. Good luck to you.

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago

    It sounds relatively normal for someone with your history. I'm sorry life has not been better for you. But you need to believe that you are a good person worthy of kindness from others.

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