Is it normal that i'm going against my family to be with my boyfriend

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For the past two weeks I been going through a lot of drama and heartbreak with my family. Recently my family have found out that I have been dating this guy (who is stunning and absolutely amazing). I have been seeing home for almost a year. I have been with him every single day and every day has been an absolute blessing. He showed me that I can love again and feel like I'm worth something. He treats me with the up most respect. My boyfriend is Spanish, he is from Ecuador, and I am italian/American. I come from a very strict italian family where I basically get treated like I'm 10. I never expected to fall in love with him but honestly it just happened. And I can't stay away from him, as he feels the same. My family has forbid me from seeing him. Why? Because be is Spanish and quoted from my father "not our kind". I thought it was rude and disrespectful. He flipped out and was throwing glass and calling me all sorts of names like I was this horrible person. They even went to the extreme of me quitting my job because be worked there as well! I'm to the point where I just want to leave. I need space and to have my own freedom. I'm tired of this hatred towards people with different race culture or age. That is not something I believe in. I love this man and my parents look out for what's best for me and I love them for that but it's time for me to make my own decisions. They can't tell me who to love and who not to. I forgot to mention I am almost 20 years old !

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  • Meggiesaur
    10 years ago

    You may love your family, but if they love you back, then they shouldn't care who you are with as long as you stay you. Before you let your family go, presuming you do, make sure you want to be with him, and him with you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Follow your dripping vagina!

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  • college
    10 years ago

    "They can't tell me who to love and who not to." Seems you answered your own question. Totally normal, follow your heart, and more power to ya!

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  • fullhouse
    10 years ago

    I am Indian and have to say family comes first. But break away from your family for a guy. Better would be you must calmly let them know how great he treats you n you're capable of taking your decisions. They'll come around sometime later if not earlier. be with the guy but don't abandon your family. Family stands by you when you need them n they're what you will have later too

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  • Klt3shottie
    10 years ago

    It is very normal. Sometimes families don't always know best. Do what you feel is best for you and if they don't want to push you away, they will have to come around eventually.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    It is very normal.

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  • Elyod88
    10 years ago

    I knew someone who is also Italian and their sister had to sit down with their parents and tell them that she loved dark sninned men, lucky for him her boyfriend was Catholic so that helped sway the parents. Be with him, no one should dictate to you what you feel.

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  • SuperBenzid
    10 years ago

    If it's a traditional Italian family then tell them it is their fault for not marrying you off early and what did they expect? That will get to them.

    Really if they are traditional you were always gong to be treated this way, it was a bridge you had to cross at some point.

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  • SkullsNBones
    10 years ago

    So he doesn't want you dating someone who's "not out kid", I smell incest! But anyway if they won't let you date someone just because he's Spanish they really need to grow up and stop being so racist.

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    • Principessa607
      10 years ago

      I meant kind ! But yes I know ! They do

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  • CheyChey
    10 years ago

    argh

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